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Your Midyear (or Midmonth, or Midlife) Review + Planning Session!

Christi Hegstad July 13th, 2022

The last several months have felt quite whirlwind-y to me:

My youngest kiddo graduated from high school.

I celebrated a milestone birthday.

My business is undergoing massive transformation as it approaches its 20-year anniversary.

Throw in various family, health, and world events, and some days I picture myself a bit like the ‘Taz’ cartoon character from days gone by!

While I’ve shifted from excited to exhausted to exhilarated and back, I have also been purposeful about taking time to reflect on the past and envision the ideal future, as well. You probably know by now my love for the Weekly Review + Planning Session (aka, Weekly R+P) as well as similar processes at other points throughout the year. This season I’ve kicked it up a notch, asking myself a ton of questions to help ensure that my next chapter is my best chapter. I thought I’d share some of those questions with you, so you can ask them of yourself whether as a midyear – or midmonth, or even midlife – inventory.

After considering the questions below, if you’d like help gaining clarity on your best next chapter and how to actually achieve it, please reach out – I will soon have openings for new coaching clients and I’d love to chat with you about possibilities!

Conducting Your Personal Review + Planning Session

Step 1: Gather your journal, pen, and a beverage, and find a quiet space.

Step 2: Determine the time frame for your review. I’ve phrased the questions as a midyear inventory; for my recent birthday, however, I actually did a general life review in decades, then envisioned and planned for the decade ahead. Choose and reword accordingly.

Step 3: Ask yourself the following questions, or pick and choose the ones that speak to you, or create your own list – whatever serves you best!

REVIEWING:

(Respond without being humble and without any self-criticism or judgment.)

Looking back over the first half of the year…

1. What are some of my highlights? What makes these stand out for me?

2. What challenges have I faced? What helped / is helping me work through them?

3. If I could choose a word or theme to represent the first half of the year, what would I choose?

4. What lessons have I learned or been reminded of about myself, my work, my community / world, life in general?

5. What has contributed to my growth, personally and professionally? (For example, a class you took, coach you hired, group you joined, etc)

6. What goals did I set for this year, and how am I doing with them?

7. What habits have I started? What habits have I stopped? What have I continued? How are these impacting me?

8. What relationships (family, professional, friendships, etc) have I established or strengthened this year?

9. What stand out as favorites so far this year? Think books, blogs, foods, movies, workouts, whatever comes to mind.

10. Overall, how would I describe my first half of the year?

ENVISIONING + PLANNING:

(Dream and have fun with this section, focusing on the what and not the how.)

As I look ahead to the second half of the year…

11. What highlight moments do I want to experience? At the end of the year, what do I truly want to be celebrating?

12. What obstacles might I face along the way? How can I best prepare for them?

13. What word or theme do I proactively choose now to describe my second half of the year?

14. What guiding principles, life lessons, or mantras will be helpful to keep in mind?

15. What class, coach, book, conference, and/or other resources will I commit to in order to grow personally and professionally?

16. What is my top-priority goal(s) for the second half of the year? How will I keep this present, alive, and moving forward?

17. What habits do I commit to starting, stopping, and continuing? What will help me stay on track? (Note: Don’t overlook the ‘continue’ portion of this question! Pay attention to what’s working for you so you can intentionally keep it going.)

18. With whom do I want to build or strengthen a relationship? Feel free to name names here, as well as general ideas like ‘a mentor in my industry.’

19. What areas do I want to develop or learn more about? What books will I read in the second half of the year? (Search ‘books’ on my blog for countless recommendations!)

20. On December 31, as I look back over this entire year, what do I most want to say about it? How will I describe it? What other actions will help ensure this becomes my reality?

If you’d like to see how I answered some of these questions myself, be sure to subscribe to my newsletter (and grab your free Big Dreams, Bold Goals! workbook while you’re at it)!

What highlight stands out from your first half of the year? What goal, event, or activity are you particularly excited about in the second half? Share below!

Ready to design and achieve your BEST next chapter? Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC can help! Reach out today to discuss possibilities!

May ’22 Reading Wrap-up

Christi Hegstad May 26th, 2022

I have enjoyed a massive (for me) reading month, thanks in large part to this helpful spring formula:

Better weather + longer outdoor walks + audiobooks = more books completed than usual!

Plus add several hours in the car and there you have it.

In May, I finished ten books – five fiction and five nonfiction – bringing my total for the year so far to 41 books. I track them in my reading bullet journal (aka, bujo), writing a brief snippet for each as well as listing all of them on my ‘bujo bookshelf’:

2022 Bujo Bookshelf as of May

Pretty high-tech, eh? 🙂

Below you’ll find brief commentary on each of my May reads, fiction followed by nonfiction, plus which books turned out to be my favorites of the month!

Opal Nev book

The Final Revival of Opal & Nev by Dawnie Walton

I had the pleasure of meeting Dawnie Walton recently at the Des Moines Book Festival, shortly after her book was longlisted for the Women’s Prize for Fiction, and there is something extraordinary about reading a book that the author has just signed for you! I listened to much of this one as well, my first experience with a full-cast narration – it was like a play being performed in my headphones. I loved the story, the narrative arc, the character development, and my entire reading experience with this one!

Sweetness Bottom Pie book

The Sweetness At The Bottom Of The Pie by Alan Bradley

This is the first in a ten-part (I believe) mystery series starring the bright and precocious Flavia de Luce, an 11-year-old chemistry buff and, as it turns out, detective. This was a fun read and I adored the style and voice of the audiobook narrator, Jayne Entwistle. Set in the 1950s in rural England (the setting was wonderful!), this would probably qualify as a ‘cozy mystery.’

Unnecessary Woman book

An Unnecessary Woman by Rabih Alameddine

Part of my family heritage is Lebanese, so I am often on the lookout for books written by Lebanese authors and/or set in Lebanon. This novel features a 70-something woman living alone in Beirut, addressing common life experiences (relationships, work, friendship, etc.) in a not-always-common way or environment. A thoughtful story, and beautifully crafted on a sentence level; one of several that I tabbed, for example: “No nostalgia is felt as keenly as nostalgia for things that never existed.”

Death Nile book

Death On The Nile by Agatha Christie

Somehow, I never read an Agatha Christie novel until a year or so ago, even though she has a gigantic backlist and has been hailed for decades as a stellar mystery writer. (Now that I think about it, I believe I picked up my first Christie novel shortly after reading The Mystery of Mrs. Christie by Marie Benedict, which I thought was excellent.) I enjoyed the closed circle setting and the red herrings along the way, as well as the sense of place and the ‘old-fashioned’ (aka, pre-cell-phone) feel.

Town Solace book

A Town Called Solace by Mary Lawson

I randomly heard of this one from a ‘booktuber’ (someone with a book-related YouTube channel) – The Book Bully – who often reads similarly to me, and after her description I could not get it out of my mind. I picked it up soon after, finished it in a matter of days, and it has become one of my favorite books of the year so far! A beautifully written story (with an equally beautiful cover) touching on topics of family, grief, friendship, loss, and forgiveness. I loved this one.

Things Learned Falling book

Things I Learned From Falling by Claire Nelson

An insightful account of one woman’s experience surviving alone for several days, unable to move her injured body, after falling during a hike. Both inspiring and terrifying, the grit, optimism, and mental strength displayed in this story amazed me. (I had to keep reminding myself, “She wrote this book – so she clearly survived!”) This came highly recommended by my daughter, an avid hiker herself.

Didnt Do Thing book

I Didn’t Do The Thing Today by Madeleine Dore

I’ll admit it: the title completely drew me to this one! This book reminds us that productivity isn’t just about completing our to-do lists, and success doesn’t revolve around getting the most done. Based on numerous interviews the author held with a wide range of professionals, I appreciated the aforementioned reminders, the look at how routines can both serve and ‘run’ us, and the deeper questioning around how to actually define productivity for ourselves.

Will Smith book

Will by Will Smith with Mark Manson

An interesting account of the life of Will Smith, from childhood to present day. I appreciated his openness, particularly in the first half of the book, and particularly around his relationship with fear. I struggled with several aspects of the book too, in part because my long library hold came in just shortly after his recent public violent outburst. Taken as a case study of work ethic and self-confidence, I walked away with a few insightful nuggets; also, the audiobook is incredibly well-produced.

Cultish book

Cultish by Amanda Montell

This well-researched, intriguingly presented book provides a fascinating look at the power of language in creating cult and cult-like environments. Montell, whose father belonged to a cult for a time, looked at everything from Jonestown to fitness fads to multi-level marketing organizations and how each uses language, among other factors, to create a cult-like atmosphere – often to devastating results. I appreciated her perspectives on how people – including educated, capable, free-thinking adults – can fall prey to cults.

Remember Nothing book

I Remember Nothing: And Other Reflections by Nora Ephron

I’ve read a few of Ephron’s essay collections over the years and she nearly always makes me laugh with her wise and witty life observations. She somehow manages to be both caring and irreverent all at once – like she always wants to do her best but also knows not to take herself too seriously. This collection covers everything from family and friendship to the evolution of email to life in New York to aging. Funny, relatable (in many ways), and thoroughly enjoyable.

While I rated most of this book stack quite highly, my favorite fiction read for May was A Town Called Solace, and I will definitely be looking into more of Mary Lawson’s works. My favorite nonfiction was a tie between Things I Learned From Falling and Cultish – both exceptional for very different reasons!

Do you have questions or opinions on any of these? What’s the best book you read in May? Share your thoughts below!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers! Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities to help you create a meaningful career and purposeful life.

 

 

Achievers and Celebrating Wins

Christi Hegstad May 22nd, 2022
High achievers are particularly prone to being in the ‘gap’ … Even after some massive victory, their mind quickly goes to the next unreached achievement.”  – Dan Sullivan + Benjamin Hardy
How often have you completed a project or achieved a goal, then – before the ink is even dry from checking off the box – you’re already thinking about the next one?
Our society tends to promote this ‘what’s next’ focus. And, as achievers, many of us naturally operate this way as well.
But when we take a moment to acknowledge the win, we boost our mindset – plus we can learn valuable insights that will actually help us with our next achievement.
This week, celebrate a win.
Some ways you can do this:
* Share your accomplishment with your coach, leader, or friend.
* Journal a paragraph about the win, what you learned, and how you feel.
* Treat yourself – maybe a favorite coffee or an hour leisurely browsing the library bookshelves.
* Add the win to your Success Journal.
How will you celebrate your win this week?
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers! Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities to help you create a meaningful career and purposeful life.

The Purposeful To-Do List

Christi Hegstad May 8th, 2022
When it comes to productivity, our minds often veer toward one measure:
“How many items did I check off my to-do list?”
Like many, I *love* the satisfaction of checking things off the list.
What I love even more, however, is knowing that the items I checked off – at least some of them – are honoring my core values, making a positive impact, and/or moving me toward a larger goal or vision.
This week, focus on purposeful productivity.
Take a look at your to-do list.
Ask yourself, “At the end of the week, what do I most want to know I accomplished?”
Prioritize those 3 or so items, schedule time blocks in your calendar for them, and enjoy the satisfaction of being purposefully productive!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers! Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities to help you create a meaningful career and purposeful life.

 

Monthly Review – April ’22 Lessons Learned

Christi Hegstad May 4th, 2022

I’ve had so much fun hearing your feedback since I started posting these monthly recaps over a year ago! Please keep sharing your thoughts, comments, and your own lessons learned – I love to hear from you.

1. Sometimes the most difficult-to-make decisions turn out, in the end, to be the best ones.

2. Complaining is not an effective strategy.

3. Cat cafes may be the greatest type of coffee shop ever created.

4. The quality of your answers depends on the quality of your questions – as well as how you ask them.

5. I cannot change other people. I can, however, commit to bringing my best self to every interaction, regardless.

Do any of these resonate? What lesson(s) did April teach you?

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers! Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities to help you create a meaningful career and purposeful life.

Trust And Decision-Making

Christi Hegstad May 1st, 2022

‘Trust’ has been a big word in my coaching conversations lately.

People wanting to trust in their decisions, their career choices, that they’re able to say the right thing at the right time.

So when I came across this line in my latest read from Elizabeth Acevedo, it instantly stood out:

“Trust. Yourself, mainly, but the world, too. There is magic working in your favor.”

This week, trust yourself.

List a few decisions you’ve made in the past that turned out awesome.

Look for patterns, such as the homework you did in advance, how you felt upon making the decision, or the wise counsel you sought to help talk things through.

You’ve got a track record of success behind you – don’t forget that!

And trust me, you’ve still got a long string of successes ahead of you, too.

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers! Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities to help you create a meaningful career and purposeful life.

 

April ’22 Reading Wrapup

Christi Hegstad April 27th, 2022

Here we are again, approaching the end of another month! I read some excellent books in April, rating most of them four out of five stars or higher.

Primarily due to several library holds coming in all at once (that joyful dilemma!), I read more fiction (five) than nonfiction (three) this month. Some were due back to the library before I could take a picture of the entire stack, which is why you see a few ‘place holders’ in the photo above; you’ll find a cover photo of each below.

A few thoughts on each book, starting with the nonfiction!

Disability Visibility book - April 22 - Wong

Disability Visibility by Alice Wong

A thoughtful collection of essays written by a variety of people with disabilities, sharing their life experiences and insights. I really appreciated the diverse voices, the challenging of assumptions, and the reminder that not all disabilities can be ‘seen.’ I also valued the many ideas offered for creating a more accessible and inclusive world, and I felt so inspired by the actions the contributors have taken to raise awareness and prompt change. I read this both in paper and audio formats.

Hood Feminism book - April 22 - Kendall

Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall

Subtitled ‘Notes From The Women That A Movement Forgot,’ Kendall discusses the importance of feminism as well as the many ways people of color, LGBTQ+, and other marginalized groups have not always been included in the movement. So much important information in this resource on topics ranging from housing to food insecurity to healthcare to victim-blaming, and backed by statistics and examples. I tabbed many pages and, in reviewing my notes, noticed I had written ‘eye-opening’ multiple times – a fair description of my reading experience!

Leave Me If Could book - April 22 - Halsey

I Would Leave Me If I Could by Halsey

April is National Poetry Month, and after hearing about singer/songwriter Halsey’s poetry collection on a podcast recently, I decided to pick it up from my local library. She offers a unique structure to her poems, and while each can easily stand alone, I also felt a thematic element running through the collection. I am not super familiar with Halsey’s music, but the next time I hear one of her songs on the radio I’ll be listening more closely to her lyrics!

Island Missing Trees book - April 22 - Shafak

The Island of Missing Trees by Elif Shafak

I have been intrigued by the Women’s Prize For Fiction the past couple of years, so after the longlist was announced for 2022, I decided to dive into a few of the selections that I hadn’t previously read. So far, Shafak’s novel is my favorite among them; I adored her beautiful prose, well-developed characters, and compelling story. She touched on so many topics, several of them difficult or heartbreaking, and masterfully interwove various threads together throughout the novel. I never thought a fig tree would become one of my favorite characters in a novel – but never say never!

Fire On High book - April 22 - Acevedo

With The Fire On High by Elizabeth Acevedo

This is my second book by Acevedo and she has quickly become a must-read author for me. I loved how the protagonist – a teenage mother finishing high school and making plans for her next chapter – was strong, smart, kind, and in pursuit of her personal dreams while caring beautifully for her young daughter. Acevedo’s writing is stellar and I jotted down many lines from the book; among my favorites: “Trust. Yourself, mainly, but the world, too. There is magic working in your favor.”

Magnolia Palace book - April 22 - Davis

The Magnolia Palace by Fiona Davis

As a longtime fan of Fiona Davis’ historical fiction, I placed her latest release on hold as soon as I heard about it. Definitely worth the wait! I enjoyed the dual timelines as well as how the stories intersected, a format Davis has mastered. Her hearty heroines kept me turning the pages quickly; I finished this one in just two days, in fact. I’ve read her entire backlist and I am sure I’ll continue reading everything she publishes.

Whereabouts book - April 22 - Lahiri

Whereabouts by Jhumpa Lahiri

I’ve heard Jhumpa Lahiri mentioned in the literary world for quite some time but had not yet read any of her works until this month. One book in and I feel compelled to read the rest! Her writing is sparse and precise; I get the feeling that each word is chosen with care, and I love it when a novel makes me thoughtfully consider and appreciate the craft of writing. I went between the audio and paper versions of this one and thoroughly enjoyed it in both formats.

Maid Book - April 22 - Prose

The Maid by Nita Prose

The Maid by Nita Prose – not to be confused with the also-popular Maid by Stephanie Land – is a mystery/thriller that I have seen everywhere since its release earlier this year. While this isn’t necessarily my go-to genre, the premise of this one intrigued me enough to put it on hold at the library. What a ride! The story took a number of twists and turns along the way, and I found it compulsively page-turning. I also really liked many of the central characters, which makes such a difference when reading.

That’s my April wrap-up! Have you read any of these books? What did you think? Share your thoughts – or your latest reads – below!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers! Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities to help you create a meaningful career and purposeful life.

New Week, Fresh Start

Christi Hegstad April 24th, 2022
As I look back over the past week, I’m a little frustrated with some of my choices.
I didn’t follow through on my exercise goals, for example.
I also procrastinated on a personal project that then had me scrambling at the end of the week.
So, not my most accomplished week ever. But fortunately I, like you, have the opportunity to start fresh!
This week, clean the slate.
Reflect on what went well last week, as well as what you’d like to do differently this week.
Without judgment, make a fresh plan for how the next week will look.
Then, take one action right away to start off strong. A brief walk, a bit of reading, even drinking a large glass of water – something to begin your week positively and purposefully!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is an Accredited + Multi-Certified Coach helping you bring meaning to work and purpose to life!  Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities.

3 Tips To Support Your Habit Development

Christi Hegstad April 13th, 2022
Brushing your teeth.
Running 3 miles.
Contacting 5 prospects.
Buckling your seatbelt.
Drinking water.
Posting to your blog.
Which of these are already habits for you?
Which of these, or others that come to mind, do you wish were habits?
We can have such a love/hate relationship with habits – enjoying the results they bring, feeling restricted by their ‘rules,’ delighting in the extra mental space, being frustrated by slow progress.
If you’ve reached the point of “Something’s gotta change,” here are three habit helpers I have found particularly useful that might serve you, too:

“Consistent, not constrictive.”

I’ve shared often about my ‘all or nothing’ tendencies, which – when it comes to developing new habits – can mean starting 14 new habits all at once, tracking them diligently for a week, then becoming overwhelmed and forgetting them completely.
I’ve learned not only to pare down the number of habits I’m implementing, but also to focus on general consistency rather than rigid perfection. This mantra, “Consistent, not constrictive,” keeps me in check.
Feel free to adopt this mantra for yourself, or to develop one of your own that speaks to your specific point of overwhelm.

The Habit of Completion.

When my space, mind, calendar, or life feel cluttered, I do not operate at my best. And while I’m a frequent declutterer when it comes to ‘stuff,’ one of my biggest clutter culprits is unfinished business.
This could include projects partially complete, books half-read, tasks started but with just a bit left to finish. It feels like running 25.8 miles in a marathon – and then just running in place.
Developing a habit of completion is one of the best ways I’ve found to ‘cross the finish line,’ so to speak. Either blocking time to finish a specific project, or breaking it down into smaller milestones and committing to finishing the next one by a certain date. The habit of completion is one of the best habits I’ve created for myself!

Habits = Relief.

We make approximately one zillion decisions per day (or so it seems). If you ever come home in the evening to a family member asking what’s for dinner and your overloaded mind cannot formulate one single idea, you’re probably familiar with decision fatigue. Habits, by their very nature, can help free you of that.
Imagine if, every single time you got in the car, you had to consciously think about, ponder, weigh pros and cons, and decide whether or not to buckle your seatbelt. Instant exhaustion! The habit of buckling as soon as you enter your car eliminates that completely.
So rather than thinking of habits as limiting or harsh, consider the freedom, lightness, and relief they can offer. This perspective shift can change everything.
If you’d like to know three of my favorite habit-related books, feel free to revisit the 3-minute video I posted on LinkedIn back in November. And be sure to share your top habit helpers below so we can all learn from you!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is an Accredited + Multi-Certified Coach helping you bring meaning to work and purpose to life!  Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities.

Your Quarter In Review, One Week At A Time

Christi Hegstad April 12th, 2022

“If you want me to remember, please message it to me.”

This is my go-to response when my kiddo asks for a specific item from the grocery store or a friend asks me to drop off a book at her home.

I even text myself so I don’t forget random thoughts and ideas! (Anyone else?)

I often don’t remember what I ate for dinner last night, let alone what happened eight or ten weeks ago. For this reason (and several others), I conduct a brief review of my work and life each week.

The Overview

I’ve written in detail about my Weekly Review + Planning session, which you can read about here. One important component of that process involves recapping key moments and experiences from the week, which I typically do as a spread in my bullet journal.

Basically, I take ten minutes to jot down a few bullet-point notes for the categories in which I want to track progress. My current categories include:

WINS – Successes, highlight moments, memories; I include small + large, personal + professional, planned + unexpected, etc.
CHALLENGES – This category might include illness, frustrations, global issues, or anything that sidetracked me or occupied my time / mental space.
LESSONS – What did I learn? (Side note: I review these when I post my Monthly Lessons here on my blog and on LinkedIn.)
FREE – This is my theme for 2022, so I’m noting how it played out or what felt ‘freeing’ each week.
GOALS – An update on progress toward my Bold Goals for the quarter/year.
READ / HEARD – Books, podcast episodes, and other resources that stood out for me.
GRATITUDE – I try to be specific to the week and not write the same thing twice!
NEXT WEEK – Any tips and/or big things I’ll be focusing my energy on in the next week.

I find the weekly reflection invaluable, allowing me to celebrate and course-correct as needed. These spreads also serve as my second brain at the end of the month, quarter, and year!

Your Turn

If you want to have a more accurate, accessible way to recap your quarter, give this exercise a try.

Start by deciding which categories you want to keep track of. You can change these at any time, of course, but a bit of forethought goes a long way.

Then, choose where you will track them. Be realistic with yourself here. If I set this up in the Notes app of my phone, I would never look at it again – but that might be the best place for you. Like with planning systems, the best one is the one you will consistently use!

Finally, choose a time when you will consistently update your weekly review. I typically find Sunday afternoon or evening works best for me, but again, you do you.

Your future self will thank you for this weekly update! And as you review, celebrate, and make in-the-moment adjustments, your present self will thank you, too.

Let me know below one of the categories you’ll include in your weekly review!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is an Accredited + Multi-Certified Coach helping you bring meaning to work and purpose to life!  Contact us to inquire about coaching possibilities.

 

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