Author Archives: Christi Hegstad

Takeaways From THE ADVANTAGE by Patrick Lencioni

Christi Hegstad October 15th, 2013

Although I am a big reader, I am typically not a fan of “workplace parables,” which explains why I haven’t been particularly drawn to Patrick Lencioni’s work in the past despite seeing his books on the bestseller lists. 

When he released a non-parable book last year, The Advantage, I decided to take a peek. I ended up reading (devouring) the book quickly and about wore out a highlighter in the process!

In brief, The Advantage serves as a guide to organizational health. Right from the start, Lencioni highlights two requirements for success: an organization needs to be smart (in terms of strategy, finance, marketing, and the like) and healthy (minimal politics and confusion, high morale and productivity). Rather than providing simple “quick fixes” for organizational health that don’t last, he offers a more sustainable culture shift: one underscored by strong leadership, recognized values, and defined purpose.

One of the longings I hear most often from my executive clients is their desire for clarity – an issue Lencioni has obviously experienced as well, since 3 of his 4 disciplines in The Advantage revolve around this topic. I was reminded of Cy Wakeman’s statement in Reality Based Leadership: “Ambiguity is the source of all conflict.” When we can clearly communicate goals, expectations, procedures and values, we reduce tension and misunderstandings and increase levels of engagement.

While profound statements – and more importantly, thought-provoking questions for organizational leaders to ask themselves – abound throughout the book, my favorite appears within Discipline 2 – Create Clarity. Here, Lencioni discusses the importance of knowing your purpose and asserts that all organizations exist to make people’s lives better. 

“Now that doesn’t mean that all organizations make people’s lives better in major, transformational ways,” he writes. “And it doesn’t mean they make ALL people’s lives better. Nonetheless, every organization must contribute in some way to a better world for some group of people, because if it doesn’t, it will, and should, go out of business.”

He continues with a question all organizations should ask themselves first and frequently: “How do we contribute to a better world?”

That question alone, and the discussions that will ensue from it, make this book worth the investment, in my opinion. I also appreciate his exercises that focus on building on people’s strengths to make a stronger, healthier organization.

Whether you lead a large corporation or own a small business, the takeaways from The Advantage will benefit your organizational health. And if you, like me, are not a fan of leadership parables, you’ll be relieved to know that Lencioni’s storytelling skills make this an enjoyable read, too!

Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.

Time To Play BIG

Christi Hegstad October 14th, 2013

CLARITY KICKSTART: October 14, 2013

“You were born to be a player. You were meant to be here. This moment is yours.”

~ Olympic Coach Herb Brooks

Coaching Tip For The Week:

Do you ever get a message over and over, and over and over, until you finally realize the message is meant for YOU?

Lately, the message I’m continually receiving – through books, conversations, opportunities, you name it – is PLAY BIG.

We are not here to hide our gifts and keep our strengths a secret. We are here to make a difference, to engage fully, and to graciously and powerfully step into our full potential.

We are here to play full-on.

This week, commit yourself to playing BIG. Take a step out of your comfort zone and into the direction of your dreams. Declare yourself in the game!

What step will you take out of your comfort zone this week? Share your idea below, on our Facebook page, or via Twitter!

Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.


 
 
 

The Hidden Power of Your Life List

Christi Hegstad October 10th, 2013

If you had unlimited money, time, and energy, what would you LOVE to do, see, experience, try? Who would you love to meet? Where would you travel? What causes would you champion?

This question prompts the creation of your bucket list or, as I prefer to call it, your Life List. What would we find on yours?

Last year, I asked our ASPIRE members to each create a “List of 101 Dreams”. Yes, you read that correctly: 101! I instructed them to focus on the WHAT, not the HOW.

Items on their lists included the creative, meaningful, daring, legacy-building, even outlandish 🙂 And most had no idea how their dreams would play out.

Last week at Spark, we heard story after story from some of these ASPIRE members who made their lists without any CLUE how they would act on them – and who have since reaped the benefits in unexpected ways.

Brenda shared how her “Run a 5k” a few years ago has resulted in her now running many 5ks, 10ks, half-marathons, and IronGirls – and even achieving her ASPIRE Bold Goal of becoming a Certified Personal Trainer!

Kim offered how she learned to make wine (of which I am a lucky recipient ~ see photo at right), asked a chef to teach her to cook Indian food, and will soon be traveling to Norway!

Life Lists are powerful, focusing, and energizing tools. It’s fun to dream and to spark conversation with others about their Life List ideas.

But did you know they can also lead you to your purpose, connect you with your values, and help you determine your true work?
 
If you haven’t created a Life List, start one today. You can include whatever you want – dream big! Here are a few suggestions to get you started:

Include both personal and work-related items.

Take all of your Life Dimensions into consideration: health, career, finances, spiritual, and so on. Would you love to become the CEO of your organization? Start your own business? Exhibit your art? Complete a triathlon? Triple your revenue? Maybe you share my dream of becoming a TED Talk speaker? Make your Life List holistic, incorporating professional dreams as well as personal.

Include both specific and vague items.

As you likely know, the more specific you become, the greater your likelihood of reaching your vision. When it comes to Life List dreaming, however, it’s o.k. to have some open-ended items on there, too. For example, a few years ago I put “Make a significant contribution to charity” on my Life List, not knowing how that would play out. About a year later I grew my hair out enough to have 10″ cut off and sent to Locks of Love, so they could create a wig for someone who was experiencing hair loss due to chemotherapy or other reasons. The openness of that item allowed me to fulfill it in a way I wouldn’t have predicted.

Include both you-focused and other-focused items.

It’s not selfish to dream for yourself – think of how your experience can inspire others to follow your lead! But also have items that include others in your dreams. One of my clients wanted to start a vocational school that would train youth who struggled with traditional schooling to succeed at work. Another client dreams of helping women in prison become successful forces for positive change once released. What about paying college tuition anonymously for a deserving student? Supporting your child’s dream of playing piano at Carnegie Hall? Creating a community garden that brings people together in service and feeds the hungry?

At Spark, I challenged our participants to create a List of 101 Dreams – which they started during our time together. That was less than a week ago, and I’ve already received emails from Sparklers sharing items they’ve set in motion!

So now I challenge YOU to create your List of 101 Dreams. Be silly, deep, fun, off-the-wall. Engage others in the conversation and see what they’d include. Just create the list, focusing on the WHAT and not the HOW. You will be amazed at how this will play out in your work and life – plus you’ll have a lot of fun doing it!

What’s one thing you’ll include on your Life List? Leave your idea below, on Facebook, or via Twitter!

Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.

Waiting Until The Right Time

Christi Hegstad October 7th, 2013

CLARITY KICKSTART: October 7, 2013

“A year from now you will wish you had started today.”

~ Karen Lamb

Coaching Tip For The Week:

What are you putting off until the time is right? 

When, specifically, will the time be right?

If you can’t pinpoint a date to answer that question, remember that “someday” does not exist on the calendar!

We tend to regret the things we don’t do more than the things we do – even if we don’t succeed in our attempts. The actions involved in moving towards our dreams and vision fulfill and invigorate us.

This week, consider something about which you keep saying, “Next year, I should…”. Take 5 (!) actions towards it this week. Give your dream the kickstart it deserves!

What helps you start today rather than waiting for someday? Share your thoughts below, on Facebook, or via Twitter

Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.


 
 

Do You Finish What You Start? Does It Matter?

Christi Hegstad October 3rd, 2013

“It may be exhausting, but that’s beside the point. The goal is to be the kind of person who has ideas and sees them through.”

~ Esme Raji Codell

 

I love the book Educating Esme, from which the above quote comes. It’s the true story of a teacher who, against seemingly insurmountable odds, pursues her passion for teaching and positively impacts some very challenged and troubled young lives. Hers is a story of never giving up, even when “exhausting” wasn’t a strong enough word. It’s a terrific book about making commitments and following through on them.

Are you the kind of person that sees things through?

Do you finish what you start?

Much of my career and executive coaching work starts with clients decluttering in some form – often the physical “stuff” that depletes one’s energy before you even begin your project (or your day, for that matter).

Just as important as clearing away the excess is determining what’s causing it in the first place. For me, and for many of my clients, the culprit is quite clear: unfinished business.

Consider your workspace or home for a moment. Do you have piles of papers representing incomplete work projects?

Stacks of books on your nightstand that, someday, you intend to read?

Lists 10 pages long because within minutes of starting one project, you switch gears and move on to the next?

Passion, as glorious as it is, can also lead to frustration and even heartbreak if you continually start pursuing it but never follow through to some form of completion. Piles that indicate chaos, incompleteness, or passion gone awry can quickly – but sneakily – lead one to feeling scattered and unfocused.

You can start to eliminate those disruptive feelings by eliminating their source. Choose one incomplete project that’s taking up space (physical, mental, or both), and decide to either do it, delegate it, or delete it. Make the commitment to one of those three options, then follow through.

Even if you’re not particularly passionate about cleaning or organizing, let your passion for becoming a “person who has ideas and sees them through” carry you forward!

We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share them below, on Facebook, or via Twitter.

Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.


How Winners Are Made

Christi Hegstad September 30th, 2013

CLARITY KICKSTART: September 30, 2013

“The athlete becomes great not when she breaks a world record and wins a medal. That’s when the world recognizes her, but in reality the event is just the evidence of her greatness. The athlete achieved greatness months, perhaps years, earlier when she decided to run the extra mile, swim the extra laps, or to perform just one jump more.”

~ Brian Moran

Coaching Tip For The Week:

This quote is SO true, and at times SO difficult to remember!

Winners aren’t made in one game any more than a plant suddenly grows from seed to flourishing with one spot of sunshine. We plant the seeds of success daily – with every call we make, every blog we post, every connection we form, every action we take in alignment with our vision.

This week, review your vision, mission, and goals. (If you don’t have them written, then reflect on them in mind and heart.) 

Commit to planting a seed – taking an action – every day this week that supports your overall vision. 

Don’t worry about whether you see results immediately. Just set your intention towards your growth and trust that your thoughtful actions are leading you exactly where you need to be.

We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share them below, on Facebook, or via Twitter.

Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.


 

The Sentence That Changes Everything

Christi Hegstad September 26th, 2013

Ask yourself one question: Do I have to change or does someone else have to change for me to succeed? Resilient people identify and then focus on the things they have control over, rather than try to change things over which they don’t.

~ Jean Chatzky

What can you do?

This brief question, brought up in the right moment, can be your difference-maker. When we feel stuck, many of us tend to focus on all the circumstances that put us in that place: the economy, past mistakes, delays of other people, and so on.

You might fall into a helpless state of “there’s nothing I can do.” What if you reframed that to ask, “What can I do?”
 
In her book Reality Based Leadership, author Cy Wakeman shares three common stories that keep us stuck;

Victim stories, in which we are the innocent sufferers. “It’s not my fault.”

Villain stories, in which others’ nasty qualities are emphasized. “It’s all your fault.”

Helpless stories, in which we convince ourselves that we have no options to change the situation or take healthy action. “There’s nothing I can do.”

How often do any of these stories show up in your work and life?

Simply shifting your focus from blaming external influences (no matter how real they are) to asking what you can do about them will shift not only your mindset, but your resiliency as well.

Lynne Robinson, a prosperity author, wrote the most beautiful sentence capturing this essence: “She’d stopped asking, ‘Why can’t I?’ and begun asking, ‘How can I?'”

Think of your wildest, craziest dream – maybe something on your Life List (aka, bucket list) that sounds awesome but, if you’re completely honest, you don’t really see happening. What if I assigned you – just for fun, no strings attached – to start writing ideas for how you could make it a reality. Could you come up with 20?

What if I said, “I’ll pay you $1,000 to come up with 20 possible ideas to make your dream a reality” – then could you?

With the right mindset and ample motivation, you can do whatever you dream of doing. And how mind-boggling to think that it may simply mean changing your vocabulary – from why you can’t to how you can.

Your thoughts? Feel free to share below, on Facebook, or via Twitter!

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Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.


A Do-Good Challenge For You

Christi Hegstad September 23rd, 2013

CLARITY KICKSTART: September 23, 2013

“Do all the good you can,

By all the means you can,

In all the ways you can,

In all the places you can,

At all the times you can,

To all the people you can,

As long as you ever can.” 

~ John Wesley

Coaching Tip For The Week:

You do good regularly, for sure: supporting charity, volunteering your time and talent, helping others. You let people know that they’re important, and your actions make a difference.

This week, intentionally kick it up a notch. Conduct 3 random acts of kindness – the type where your recipient doesn’t know you are the giver. 

Give an anonymous gas gift card to someone who’s struggling to make ends meet, pay for coffee for the person behind you in the drive-thru, leave an unsigned “Thank you for making this a great place to work” card on a coworker’s desk.

It’s been said that the greatest gift is doing something kind for someone who will never be able to repay you – perhaps because they don’t know who you are. But you can bet they’ll pay it forward, and your “doing good” will set off a positive ripple effect.

What’s the best random act of kindness you’ve performed – or received? Share your thoughts below, on Facebook or via Twitter.

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Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.


Drama-Filled Leaders

Christi Hegstad September 19th, 2013

Our ASPIRE Success Club just wrapped up discussion on a fantastic book by Cy Wakeman called Reality-Based Leadership. In the book, Cy shares practices for eliminating drama in the workplace so you can focus on what matters.

In the course of our discussion, one vibrant member asked an important question: What if your leader is the one causing the drama?

When a coworker or customer thrives on drama (and I’m sure we’ve all met those folks a time or two!), you have several options for navigating that experience. But when it’s your leader, you can easily feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Do I just have to grin and bear it? Do I speak up – and at what risk? Do I ignore it? 

Here are a few crucial points to keep in mind when a conflict or drama-filled moment arises:

1. Find common ground. What end result can you both agree on, even if your methods differ? What component matters to both of you? You need to start at a common meeting place if you’re going to move forward.

2. Know what motivates him/her. Whether we consciously recognize it or not, we lead (and live) by our values. If your leader has a core value of safety, do what you can to create a safe environment when talking with her – or she won’t hear a word you say. If he values organization and order, present your ideas in an organized manner – or he won’t be able to get past the disorganization.

3. View from a different perspective. A friend of mine shares how, when her children are bickering with one another in the back of the van, she “views them from above” and tries to see things from each one’s perspective before responding. A whiny child can drive you to the edge, but when you can acknowledge that he’s simply overtired and needs a distraction, you’ll handle things much more purposefully and effectively. Transfer this to your workplace – it works wonders. 

If you’ve been with me for any period of time, you’ve likely heard me say, “Look for the lesson.” It’s one of my Guiding Principles – one that has helped me through countless difficulties. Apply that to your drama, too: what lessons can you learn here? Even if the biggest lesson involves learning how not to be as a leader, there’s value in that.

And I’d be remiss not to say, look honestly at how you may contribute to the drama, too. Take responsibility where necessary.

Of course, if the situation involves ethical, moral, or legal issues, that’s another matter altogether. And sometimes, the best solution is to limit time spent with the instigator or leave the situation. In the meantime, hopefully these tips give you insight into the psychology of the person you’re dealing with and allow you to grow and learn gracefully through the process.

How do you navigate drama-filled leadership? Please share your ideas below, on Facebook, or via Twitter.

Spark attendees will go deeper into #2 above, identifying their own core values with our pre-training call next week. We have room for just a few more – click here to join us!


Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.

Replacing “Busy” As a Sign of Success

Christi Hegstad September 16th, 2013

CLARITY KICKSTART: September 16, 2013

“We get so tied up with activities, committees, meetings, initiatives, and programs that are all well and good that we miss what’s most important – people.”

~ Debbie Macomber

Coaching Tip For The Week:

How many times have you asked someone how they are and heard the single-word, breathless response: “Busy!”? 

How many times have you uttered that yourself?

“Busy” used to be like a badge of honor. Busy, in some ways, meant active, successful, in demand.

Now we’re experiencing an important shift. Rather than look in awe at those who are constantly busy, we admire those who live and work with intention, focus, and purpose.

We seek depth. We crave meaning.

This week, slow down. Take a look at all of your activities, responsibilities, and to-do’s, asking yourself if they a) help you fulfill your purpose, and b) help others. If you are running on empty, commit to paring down, and decide which item you’ll let go first.

Meaningful work – and a meaningful life – start with meaningful decisions!

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Dr. Christi Hegstad helps you successfully do what you love! As President of MAP Professional Development Inc., she coaches professionals to get unstuck and reach Bold Goals with clarity, confidence, and meaningful action. Learn more at www.meaning-and-purpose.com and follow Dr. Christi on Facebook and Twitter.

 
 

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