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ASPIRE Success Club FAQs

Christi Hegstad November 30th, 2021

One Q4 task I always strive to accomplish: Lining up my professional development for the coming year. You, too?

If so, you may be considering the ASPIRE Success Club. This outstanding program – now entering its 12th year! – offers twelve months of personal and professional development, comprised an incredible group of women and led by Dr. Christi Hegstad.

Below, answers to some frequently asked questions:

Who joins ASPIRE?

Our members include business owners, community leaders, volunteers, corporate executives, stay-at-home moms, nonprofit directors, real estate agents, financial planners, yoga instructors … the list goes on! Our members also live around the country – and around the globe. And while their roles and life phases may differ, all share a desire to grow + to help each other grow. Clarity, community, + coaching remain the foundation and heart of the ASPIRE Success Club.

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When does ASPIRE meet?

We offer multiple meeting times – early morning, midday, and evening CST – to accommodate various schedules, with most of our monthly meetings taking place during the third week of each month. You’ll also be invited to a goal-setting session at the start of each quarter, a book discussion at the end of each quarter, and various celebrations, Happiness Hours, and events throughout the year. You’ll receive the full calendar of events in early December (or shortly after you enroll) so you can plan accordingly!

Are the meetings online or in person?

In 2022, our monthly meetings will take place online, which allows all of our members around the globe to participate. Many of our special events, add-on workshops, and mastermind sessions are planned for both online and in person opportunities throughout the year.

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What if I don’t have a specific goal, don’t want to set a goal, or want to keep my goal private?

Goals are an important component of ASPIRE – and also completely optional! We provide training, resources, and support to help you achieve what matters most, but we also recognize that everyone has different experiences and comfort levels when it comes to sharing goals. We’ll support you wherever you’re at!

I am approaching a big life transition (switching careers, retiring, starting a business, etc) – is ASPIRE still for me?

In short, yes! Many people join ASPIRE to support them through a life transition, so you’ll be in good company.

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I’ve heard you read and discuss certain books throughout the year. Can you tell me more about that?

Every quarter, we focus on a particular theme, and Dr. Christi – who reads 50-100+ books per year – recommends 1-3 of her favorites on that theme. You’re welcome to read along if you wish (and she’ll provide a reading guide throughout the year for that very purpose) but, just like with goals, the reading is also completely optional. Some people join ASPIRE in large part to begin reading more; others don’t crack open any of the books the entire year. It’s all good – and everyone can still participate fully in the meetings and events!

And for the book lovers in the group, in 2022 we’ll be adding a meeting each quarter just to discuss the books more fully!

The ASPIRE Success Club has been going strong for 11 years, and we would love to have you join us for the 12th! Learn more and enroll here, or feel free to contact us if you have additional questions. We’re happy to help!

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Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, and more!

You, In Five Words

Christi Hegstad November 28th, 2021
If someone came up to you today and said,
“Tell me who you are in five words,”
how would you respond?
What makes you, you?
This week, play with this question.
Today’s Clarity Kickstart was prompted by a couple of things:
First, in the 2022 ASPIRE Success Club, one topic we’ll be addressing involves living + working with intention. In order to be intentional, we must know ourselves, our values, and who we are at our core.
Second, one of my favorite novels of the year has an unnamed narrator – something I didn’t even realize until I finished the book. A subtle + unexpected reminder that we are so much more than our roles, our job titles, even our names.
Who are you, in five words?
Whatever words you land on, thank you for being YOU! You are exactly what this world needs, and I am grateful for you.
Earlybird rates end soon! Click here to line up your FULL YEAR of personal + professional development with the ASPIRE Success Club!
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Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, and more!

The Formula For Change

Christi Hegstad November 24th, 2021
“What if we had an unwavering belief in ourselves?” writes Jess Ekstrom, founder of Headbands of Hope. “What if we truly believed that against all odds we will always figure it out?”
What global issue would you love to improve?
What change in your community would you love to start?
What personal goal would you still love to achieve before the end of the year?
Now…
What small, singular action could you take this week – today – to move forward?
I encourage you to take that action!
“Baby steps are still steps,” Ekstrom also reminds us.
Big change starts with a belief that you can do what you set out to do, followed by one action at a time.
What action will you take today?
Want a FULL YEAR of guidance + support to achieve your most meaningful goals? ASPIRE Success Club enrollment is now open for a limited time – join today!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, and more!

My Favorite Books of 2021!

Christi Hegstad November 18th, 2021

Haven’t joined the ASPIRE Success Club yet? Click here to explore books, growth, and goals with me all year long!

Readers, bibliophiles, and lovers of personal + professional growth, welcome to the post you ask me for each year as well as the one I struggle-yet-love to write!

I’ve read over 90 books so far this year, and narrowing down my top 10 has proven incredibly difficult. So difficult, in fact, that I just won’t do it! I’m offering my top 12 instead. 🙂

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The Fine Print

Before we dig into the books, please note a few details:

* These are books I read in 2021 – not all were published in 2021.

* This list offers my nonfiction favorites; let me know if you’d like to see my fiction favorites as well!

* I fully recognize that I may still read books that could make this list. (In fact, I am 30 pages into one that already feels like a contender!) If that occurs, I’ll share them here on the blog and/or with my email community.

OK, enough chit-chat. Let’s get to the list!

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The Nonfiction Favorites

In no particular order, here are my 12 favorite nonfiction books this year! (So far.)

Chatter by Ethan Kross

I just read this book last month and instantly knew a) it would make my list of favorites, and b) we would explore its concepts more deeply when we discuss mental strength in the ASPIRE Success Club next year. Kross has created a practical, purposeful, backed-in-science resource for managing the chatter in our minds. I particularly appreciate the many tools he offers throughout, then how he presents them in an easy-to-reference toolkit at the back of the book. You can hear me talk more about this one in a recent video on Facebook.

The Library Book by Susan Orlean

Orlean is a master at exploring a topic from every angle, conducting extensive research, interviewing loads of people, and pulling everything together into a compelling story that keeps you turning the pages to find out what happens next. This book centers around the devastating fire of the Los Angeles Public Library in 1986 while also digging into the evolution of libraries, the power of books and literacy, and the many behind-the-scenes ways libraries and librarians enrich our communities. I love the themes of resilience and the passionate pursuit of ‘what could be’ offered throughout this incredibly well-written book.

Burnout by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski

By the time I wrapped up the first chapter, I could already call this a life-changing book. An excellent, evidence-based resource about navigating and preventing an all too common, yet often misunderstood, experience: burnout. The authors’ insights on closing the stress cycle, along with the helpful examples they offer, have made a profound difference in my own life this year as well as in my work with coaching clients.

Crying In H Mart by Michelle Zauner

For I believe the first time ever, nearly half of my top picks are memoirs / essay collections; I plan to post a blog about the reasons behind that soon. Zauner’s description of her family, heritage, and navigating her mother’s terminal cancer diagnosis was thoughtful, raw, and incredibly intimate. She touches beautifully – and in many cases, heartbreakingly – on the topic of grief, and I empathized with so much of her experience. Probably my most tender read of the year.

Shoe Dog by Phil Knight

A fascinating account of, in general, the mindset and grit required to build a successful company, and specifically, how Knight employed these traits when founding Nike. I appreciate his honest depiction of the dizzying highs and devastating lows of entrepreneurship and all that goes on behind the scenes along the way; I’ve recommended this book to non-business owners as well, however, and his lessons still apply. I was so enthralled, I whipped through the 13-hour audiobook in a matter of days.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab

In my early adulthood, I often thought a boundary was essentially a metaphorical brick wall, with no way to get in or out. This idea is, of course, wildly off base, and Tawwab’s new book addresses the topic beautifully and helpfully. If you could benefit from setting healthy boundaries in your work or life, this highly accessible resource from a licensed therapist may serve as a great starting point. Practical solutions, bullet-pointed ideas, and relatable examples – I refer back to my highlights in this book quite regularly.

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I Miss You When I Blink by Mary Laura Philpott

I randomly picked this off of the Libby (library audiobook app) shelf knowing nothing about it – not even whether it was fiction or nonfiction. Turns out it’s a delightful collection of essays about everything from living as a Type A personality, to adulting effectively (or at least attempting to) in current times, to adapting one’s definition of success – and that it may not always mean coming in first place. As a Type A, enneagram 3 achiever myself who works primarily with achievers, I could relate to so many of Philpott’s hilarious, yet resonant, stories.

The Lazy Genius Way by Kendra Adachi

I’ve been a longtime fan / teacher of decluttering and have read tons of books on the topic, so nowadays I feel like most of what I read is refresher – not necessarily anything new. Adachi’s book thus surprised me, as she offers so many innovative ways of approaching this very familiar topic. She promotes being ‘a genius about things that matter and lazy about things that don’t,’ and I found her blend of practical ideas, along with questions for figuring out what will actually work for the individual reader, to be outstanding.

I’m Still Here by Austin Channing Brown

This well-written memoir offers an insightful look into the author’s experience as a Black woman in America, sharing stories from childhood all the way to now expecting her first child. I love memoirs that provide a look through a lens I have not experienced myself, and Brown does this with an honesty and graciousness that I firmly appreciated. I found this book incredibly eye-opening, and it has continued to prompt thought-provoking discussions since reading it early this year.

Think Again by Adam Grant

I have read and enjoyed several of Adam Grant’s books in the past, but Think Again completely blew me away – it’s in a league of its own when it comes to our thoughts, unlearning, nuance, and perspective. I’ve already written extensively about this book; you can learn more here and here for starters, and check out my video review on Instagram.

Uncomfortable Conversations With A Black Man by Emmanuel Acho

How often do we not ask a question for fear of appearing uninformed or of being unintentionally offensive? In this book, Acho’s overarching theme shines through: Let’s talk about things. Each section offers questions that Acho answers, clearly and kindly, from his perspective as a Black man in the U.S. He closes every chapter with additional resources to support our ongoing learning on important topics like communication, empathy, and antiracism.

Did I Say That Out Loud? by Kristin van Ogtrop

I laughed out loud more with this book than any other this year (just peek at the cover!). At the same time, I could relate so deeply to the many other emotions and inner thoughts van Ogtrop expressed. She is relatable, witty, and a keen observer of life; I particularly loved her commentary on relationships, parenting, and self-doubt. I closed the book wanting to give the author a big hug – both for all she’s experienced and for her grace in reminding me that I’m not alone.

Have you read any of these books?

Have you added any to your want-to-read list?

What’s the best book you’ve read this year?

I love talking books – let’s keep the conversation going below!

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Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, and more!

Confident Decisions for the New Year

Christi Hegstad November 14th, 2021
What tends to drain your energy?
Three things immediately come to mind for me:
Worry, clutter, and waffling in indecision.
I know I’m not alone here, which is why we’ll address these topics (and more) in the ASPIRE Success Club next year!
As I plan my goals and line up my personal + professional development for the coming year, I am keeping Marie Forleo’s words in mind:
“All progress begins with a brave decision.”
This week, make a decision.
If indecisiveness is depleting your energy, feel free to adopt my top Guiding Principle:
Decide And Take Action.
For me, this means doing the necessary homework, making a confident decision, then immediately taking an action in favor of that decision.
Decide if you’ll adopt the principle. Decide what it means to you. Then clearly, confidently make your decisions!
The 2022 ASPIRE Success Club is filling up – join us today!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, and more!

 

When My Confidence Takes A Hit

Christi Hegstad November 11th, 2021

You might be surprised how often my confidence becomes shaky.

I frequently speak publicly. I run a coaching firm. I ‘put myself out there’ all the time. I coach others to enhance their confidence.

Most, if not all, of what I do requires a healthy level of confidence.

And yet.

I receive a critical email, I don’t get the gig, or my manuscript is rejected.

Does my confidence take a hit?

You bet.

With one important word attached:

Temporarily.

I get knocked down just like the rest of the world. I start to question and doubt and second-guess myself. Just last weekend I burst into tears when sharing a recent confidence-crusher with a friend.

But at the same time, I have done – and continue to do – the work to raise my baseline level of confidence. When it dips, it typically doesn’t dip as far as it used to. And generally, it doesn’t stay there for long.

Here are a few of the components I have found helpful in my confidence-building, in case you want to give them a try:

Review Your Celebration of Triumphs.

A Celebration of Triumphs, which you can read more about here, consists of wins and highlight moments from your own life that make you feel happy / proud / fulfilled. Pull out your list (or start one now), review it, add to it. Remind yourself that you’ve done many great things and will continue to do so.

Talk With Your Coach.

While family and friends can provide incredible support, we also benefit from speaking with objective partners who have no involvement or agenda other than wanting us to succeed. Hearing my coach point out something I’m not seeing for myself, or somehow remind me of my capability, tends to bring me back swiftly from a confidence dip.

Engage In A Daily Mindset Practice.

What exactly a daily mindset practice involves will vary from person to person. A few of my tried-and-true practices include: journaling, affirmations, clarity walks, devotional + prayer, gratitude logs (and, more recently, Daily Delights), and setting a daily intention. I often pick and choose as the day warrants.

I love the days where everything goes smoothly, I receive praise instead of criticism, my plans all work out, and it feels like all is right in the world. But, since that’s not the case every day, I also love knowing I have some tools in my toolkit to help raise my confidence when it takes a dip.

What do you find helpful when your confidence takes a hit?

We discuss confidence in the ASPIRE Success Club – learn more here!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, and more!

 

 

Clarity, Community, + Coaching To Help You FLOURISH!

Christi Hegstad November 10th, 2021
Do you wish you could regularly bounce ideas off of others who truly want you to succeed – and perhaps have even been where you are?
Have you wondered what it would be like to set a bold + meaningful goal, then have a caring community regularly checking in with you on your progress?
Can you imagine how comforting it would feel to turn the calendar to January knowing you have your personal + professional development lined up for the entire year?
If this intrigues you, then the ASPIRE Success Club is ready for you!
As an ASPIRE member, you can enjoy:

* Monthly GUIDED MEETINGS with inspiring peers! Facilitated by multi-certified coach Dr. Christi Hegstad, these impactful sessions are offered multiple times each month (including an evening option in 2022!) and held online so you can participate from anywhere!

* TRAINING + ACCOUNTABILITY throughout the year, including a goal-setting session at the start of each quarter (new in 2022!) to keep you on track and moving forward!

* Deep exploration into QUARTERLY THEMES such as habits, decluttering (space, mind, + life!), mental strength, and more!

* Tools, worksheets, Q&A sessions, + ABUNDANT RESOURCES to build your personal development library and help you flourish!

* CELEBRATIONS throughout the year to honor how far you’ve come and to cheer on / get inspired by everyone else’s progress, too!

* Add-on WORKSHOPS + MASTERMIND SESSIONS at special members-only rates!

Plus book recommendations + reading guides, members-only newsletters, discussion forums, activities scheduled online + in person, a special gift for the first 50 enrollees, and more!
Visit the ASPIRE website for testimonials, program details, photo galleries, and to enroll!
Join this outstanding group of positive, supportive achievers for our 12th year of aspiring higher together! We’re excited for an entire year of clarity, community, + coaching with YOU!
Questions? Contact us  – we’re happy to help!
To your meaningful, purposeful, well-supported success!
P.S. You can learn more + enroll here!

One Week, One Habit

Christi Hegstad November 7th, 2021
When you miss a day with one of your key habits, do you pick right up where you left off?
Or do you wait until Monday, or the first of the month, or the new year?
In his book Atomic Habits, James Clear discusses the importance of habit recovery.
“Missing once is an accident,” he writes. “Missing twice is the start of a new habit.”
This week, choose and follow through with one daily habit.
I’ve noticed a couple common reasons we struggle with maintaining strong habits:
We try to establish too many at once, or we set them up with a ‘from now until the end of time’ expectation.
(Or both.)
Today I encourage you to choose one habit – a single one – that matters to you. Commit to it every day this week. Create a small one-week habit tracker to note your progress.
And don’t forget to celebrate your win at the end of the week!
We’ll explore habits (and much more!) in the 2022 ASPIRE Success Club – enrollment opens this Wednesday! 
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, and more!

What Does ‘Self-Care’ Even Mean?

Christi Hegstad November 5th, 2021

The conversation around self-care sometimes perplexes me.

We often hear it discussed in terms of spa days and vacations.

On the other hand, we also view self-care as eating nutritiously and exercising regularly.

I agree with – and am a big fan of – all of the above. I have felt the need, however, to define some form of happy medium when it comes to caring for myself. Something that feels a bit beyond meeting my basic needs, but also that I can realistically incorporate on a routine basis.

Not in place of, but in addition to, those items referenced above.

So I’ve asked myself, ‘When do I feel I’ve cared for myself well? What tends to help me feel my best?’ Below are some of the answers I’ve generated.

I feel like I’ve cared for myself when I:

* Set up my day as a blend of productivity and peacefulness. Not necessarily in equal measure, but both at least making an appearance.

* Complete or let go of a lingering task, rather than transferring it to yet another to-do list. Making the phone call, hitting ‘send’ on the email, cleaning the bathroom – whatever it may be.

* Create with my hands. This could involve baking a batch of apple muffins, typing up a new blog, or writing a thank-you card and dropping it in the mail.

* Say what I need to say. It’s harder, but seems to work better than, bottling things up or secretly rolling my eyes.

* Keep first things first, such as honoring my values, respecting my priorities, and not letting the little things get in the way of the big things.

I don’t do all of these perfectly, every day. But examining self-care through my own lens has helped me become more intentional about it, more regularly.

When do you feel like you’ve cared for yourself well? Consider journaling around this question yourself, and feel free to share a response or two below!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, earlybird enrollment to the 2022 ASPIRE Success Club, and more!

When Starting A New Chapter

Christi Hegstad November 3rd, 2021

A different role, relationship change, cross-country move … are you about to embark on something new?

How do you feel about that?

A new chapter can be both thrilling and scary. One minute you’re breathing in the fresh air of the fresh start; the next, you’re wondering if you ever knew anything about anything.

And all of it is natural.

While we often talk about the exciting aspects of a fresh start, we don’t always discuss the stickier parts. On that note, here are a few considerations as you begin your next chapter:

Give thanks for / make peace with the previous chapter(s).

This may sound a little woo-woo, but it’s important.

Your previous chapter was not wasted time. You learned, you grew, you developed skills that will serve you going forward.

Bless it for what it was, reflect (and perhaps document) what you learned, and know that it all serves a purpose in your bright future.

Acknowledge without dwelling.

This new chapter? It might be hard – really hard – at times. And that’s o.k.

We can acknowledge that something isn’t all rainbows and lollipops, even if it’s something we’ve worked hard for or dreamed of for years.

But we don’t need to linger in the difficulty, either.

Connect with your core values. Call on your mental strength, and continue building it. Trust in yourself and your ability to succeed.

Focus on your vision.

Yes, learn from the past. But let your vision of what you’re building take up more mental real estate going forward.

It may take a little while to get situated in your new chapter, and it can be helpful recognizing – but again, not dwelling on – that from the onset. Learn from your past, envision your future, and relish in the present moment. And don’t be afraid to reach out for help along the way!

What else helps you when embarking on a new chapter? Share your helpful hints below or on Instagram!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for coaching tips, book recommendations, earlybird enrollment to the 2022 ASPIRE Success Club, and more!

 

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