What Action Are You Taking To Make The World Better?

Christi Hegstad February 20th, 2018

Originally posted on Facebook and Instagram on Feb. 15, 2018. Reposted here by request for easier sharing.

I’ve rewritten this post 5 times. I can’t quite seem to fully capture what is going through my heart and mind. Maybe you can relate.

This afternoon I bundled up and went for a walk. I couldn’t stop the tears when I saw those flags at half-mast. I then witnessed a mom and her young daughter trudge through the snow and completely replenish one of the ‘free little food banks’ we have around town.

Two people taking action. Making a difference. Putting their care out into the world, sending a message, doing what they can to ease another’s burden.

I do a lot for the causes I believe in, but I could do more.

I speak up for the values that matter most to me, but I could speak more.

How about you?

We cannot just say things need to change, we must BE the change. Starting where we are, with what we have, in honor of what matters most.

Maybe that means replenishing a food bank. Funding a nonprofit that brings communities together. Running for political office. Joining a group committed to a higher purpose. Thanking a teacher, service provider, first responder, child. Acknowledging a kindness or speaking up in the event of an unkindness. Supporting a leader who stands for what is right. Looking people in the eye, engaging in meaningful dialogue with an open mind and heart, sharing our gifts even when it feels difficult to do so.

Whatever that means for you, are you willing to take an action?

I am. I am more committed than ever to setting a positive, purposeful ripple effect in motion. I promise to keep you posted.

Near the end of my walk, I spotted this leaf. Maybe I’m seeing what I want to see, but to me, it looks like a heart. Scarred and imperfect, but standing out nonetheless. We can all take our scarred hearts and imperfectness and prompt some beautiful change in our world. Who’s ready?

So much love to all. ?

Kindness, Compassion, and True Leadership

Christi Hegstad February 19th, 2018

As I sat next to the Dalai Lama I could feel in his posture and his body language the power of a leader. I remember how strongly and tenderly he held my hand the first time we met. His kindness did not in any way diminish his power, a valuable reminder that compassion is a feature of strength, not a weakness.

Douglas Abrams, The Book Of Joy

Coaching Tip of the Week:

I just finished reading The Book Of Joy, a beautiful book in which Douglas Abrams captures a week of dialogue between the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. I have been savoring this book for quite some time.

A few chapters after the above quote, Abrams writes, “Even if leadership requires a show of strength during moments of crisis, our humanity is defined equally, or perhaps even more, by our weakness and vulnerability.”

This week, be kind.

You never know what one simple gesture of kindness – a smile, a compliment, a moment of connection – can do for someone you didn’t even know was suffering.

You know how every once in a while (and maybe far too infrequently) someone will say, “Thank you – your thoughtful comment / action / Facebook post / kind gesture made a difference!”?

In most cases, for every one person that says thank you, there are dozens – if not hundreds – of others who think the same thing, but for whatever reason don’t say it.

Be kind, and trust in the ripple effect of your kindness.

I guarantee it’s making a difference.

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Happy MAPiversary! Celebrating 15 Years In Business

Christi Hegstad February 12th, 2018

Your work matters.

Your life holds great purpose.

Thank you for making a positive difference!

– Christi

Coaching Tip of the Week:

Happy MAPiversary! We turn 15 years old this week! And to think it all started with the Meaning & Purpose publication, pictured here!

Throughout the week, we’ll be sharing highlights, giveaways, lessons learned, embarrassing trivia, insights and more from 15 years in purposeful business. If you’d like to join us, be sure to check your email as well as connect on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter! (All @ChristiHegstad)

But in the meantime, and always, please take my above words to heart.

This week, remember that you make a difference.

Whatever your title, experience, education level, number of followers on social media, income level, or anything else – your work matters.

Your life holds great purpose.

YOU MAKE A DIFFERENCE.

I’ve dedicated the last 15 years of my professional life spreading this truth, and I will continue to do so as long as I have a voice!

THANK YOU for an amazing 15 years that could not have happened without YOU! And do be sure to watch our posts and emails this week – if nothing else, I think you’ll get a chuckle! 🙂

We’ve come a long way! And I am grateful for YOU. Each and every one of you.

With much love and appreciation,

Christi

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The Research-Based Step To Achieve Your Goals

Christi Hegstad February 5th, 2018

Planning when, where, and how you will take the actions needed to reach your goal is probably the single most effective thing you can do to increase your chances of success.

– Heidi Grant Halvorson

Coaching Tip of the Week:

And there you have it: one-step wisdom from one of my favorite researchers in the world of goals!

Once you’ve gained crystal clarity on your goal, uncovered the purpose behind it, and broken it down into manageable pieces, you are well on your way to meaningful achievement.

But make sure you follow through with the crucial step of scheduling.

This week, schedule up to 3 inspired actions.

As you look at your Goal Breakthrough Map, choose the first 1-3 small actions that will get it started.

Pull out your planner and assign those actions to specific days this week. Block the time needed to complete those 1-3 tasks.

When the blocked time appears, honor your commitment like you would a doctor’s appointment.

Do this week and after week and – voila! – you will accomplish your purposeful goal with purpose and ease!

Planning For Obstacles

Christi Hegstad January 29th, 2018

If you find a path with no obstacles,

it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.

– Frank Clark

Coaching Tip of the Week:

As you set your goals, do you also anticipate possible obstacles and how you will address them?

This can prove a proactive and important component of your action plan. When your mind wants to say “Quit” or “It’s not worth it,” you’ll have pre-designed strategies to move through the difficulty.

This week, add a section to your goal planning template.

You can simply call it “Potential Obstacles + Ways To Overcome.” List a few blocks you suspect might appear – perhaps based on past experience or future guessing. Dwindling motivation, lack of time, and uncertainty about how to proceed are common ones, if those prompt thoughts for you.

Then, record 1-3 ways you can overcome each block.

Turn to this section throughout your goal pursuit as needed!

For further help with this, check out my free training opportunity below!

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Bold Goal Dream Team: The 5 People Who Will Help You Achieve

Christi Hegstad January 18th, 2018

When I was in college, Michael Jordan, Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, and several other NBA stars took on the basketball world at the Olympic games. Nicknamed “The Dream Team,” these well-known players showed up with the goal of bringing home the gold. And with hard work as well as the support of coaches, trainers, fans, and more, The Dream Team did just that.

What goal could you accomplish with your own personal Dream Team?

Whenever I embark on a Bold Goal (a regular occurrence), I make sure I have five people/groups in place. Consider recruiting them for your Bold Goal Dream Team, too:

1. Inspiration Group

More than a standard networking group, an Inspiration Group surrounds you with like-minded people who want to see you succeed. The ASPIRE Success Club is a great example: Each member declares a Bold Goal toward the start of the year, then updates us on progress at our monthly meetings (and even more frequently in our online discussion forum) so we can offer ideas, provide encouragement, and cheer them on.

Ideally, your Inspiration Group will gather around a common purpose and offer a structure that ensures time is respected and well-utilized. Look for possibilities in your industry, community, or the area of your goal, such as a writing group through your local library (or join us in ASPIRE !)

ASPIRE Success Club members at our summer Garden Party! — Some ASPIRE Success Club members celebrating at a summer Garden Party!

2. Mastermind Group

While larger groups have their place, a small, intimate Mastermind Group provides an even higher level of growth. I have been in several masterminds over the years and imagine I always will be! We meet regularly, share wins and best practices, and each member gets time in the “spotlight seat”: they present an issue or challenge they are experiencing, then everyone else brainstorms, idea-shares, or even solves the problem. It’s really kind of magical!

Essentially, the premise is this: Each of us is smart individually, but when we put our brain power together, we essentially create a third mind – a ‘master mind’ – that is even better. I always find that to be true and leave each mastermind session feeling light and empowered!

One of my current mastermind groups. We've met monthly for 3 years! — One of my current mastermind groups. We have met monthly for 3 years!

3. Accountability Partner

You know how it goes: You decide to wake up early every morning and go for a run. You do great for a few days, then the snooze button becomes more appealing and you start talking yourself out of your goal… unless you know your neighbor is on the sidewalk waiting to run with you. That friend = accountability partner: You make a commitment, she makes sure you’re honoring it.

While I have a coach (see #4) for my professional goals, I love connecting with an accountability partner to keep other intentions moving forward. Right now, for example, I am in the midst of a health goal; I know what I need to do and how to do it – I just need someone to check in weekly to make sure I’m actually doing it. My sister and I are currently accountability partners and so far we are both rocking our commitments!

My current accountability partner (and sister) and I. If only all our check-ins took place on the beach! — My current accountability partner. If only all our check-ins took place on the beach!

4. Coach

I’ve been a certified coach for many years and still always have a coach myself. Nothing compares to the power of a trained, experienced professional coach to provide objectivity, serve as a high-level thought partner, hold the space for growth, and move you forward! While the groups I’ve mentioned have definitely elevated my business and life, it was when I hired my first coach that I truly saw my results skyrocket. I’ve hired countless coaches over the years since!

Each coach is unique in their approach and style, so I always think about what I most want to gain from the experience and then find the coach I believe will best help me get there. I have invested a hefty amount of money, time, and energy into coaches and will continue to do so, as little else brings such a significant return on investment! If you’re considering hiring a coach, check out these 5 questions so you can make a sound choice.

My current coach and I typically meet by phone but got to meet in-person recently! — My current coach and I typically meet by phone but enjoyed an in-person session recently!

5. YOU

As you already know, YOU are the common denominator and key ingredient to your success. You have the gifts and strength to accomplish what matters most to you. Do what’s necessary to build your confidence, believe in your abilities, create a foundation of positivity, and design an action plan that moves you forward with intention, purpose, and delight.

Seek the support of the above four people for help! You can do it – but you don’t have to do it alone. See here and here for a few more thoughts.

Your Next Inspired Action

Various friends and family members can certainly support you, as can other goal-specific professionals (therapists, professional organizers, personal trainers, accountants, and so on). Just make sure you have the objectivity and expertise of your Bold Goal Dream Team in place, too! To support you in this, download this Bold Goal Dream Team worksheet.

Brainstorm possibilities, narrow in on the best ones, then start building your Bold Goal Dream Team. Watch your results improve and the entire process become more fun, too! Let your team support you in turning dreams into goals and goals into reality.

What To Actually DO With Your Annual Theme

Christi Hegstad January 16th, 2018

Years ago, I wrote an article on the power of choosing an annual theme, something I’ve done for 15 years now. (It’s still one of my most popular posts and you can read it here.) Lately, I’ve seen numerous references to this practice – also called word of the year, intention, and other labels – while scrolling through Instagram and Facebook. It’s such a simple yet profound strategy for focusing your energy toward who and how you want to be throughout the year.

When I shared the tip during a speaking engagement recently, a woman raised her hand and said, “I love this idea and a word came to mind right away. But once you choose your theme, what do you actually do with it?”

The main purpose is for your theme to remind you of your high-level focus for the year and to serve as a through-line for your actions and decisions. In addition, you can use your theme in a variety of practical ways to keep it present and infuse it into your life. Some of my favorites:

* Raise your hand if you seem to enter passwords into your computer and phone at least 853 times per day! Weave your theme into your passwords for continuous reinforcement.

* Find or create a visual anchor that represents your word. A vision board, photo, sculpture, pendant, painting, or any number of items could serve as a line-of-sight reminder.

* Make your word your laptop screensaver or phone wallpaper. You’ll enjoy a reminder every time you turn on your screen.

* Create a breakthrough map around what your word means, looks like, and feels like to you. For example, one of my all-time favorite themes was ‘expansion.’ I journaled about how I wanted to expand my mind and sense of possibility, ways I could do that (attend conferences, hire a coach, put myself out there more), and what it meant to me. That year, I used to say, “I want to expand in all ways except my waistline!” I was only half-joking. 🙂

* Consider creating a few goals in the area of your theme. When your goals and theme are aligned, you’ll find forward movement much easier.

* Write your theme on sticky notes and place them wherever you could benefit from the reminder: your bathroom mirror, the front of your planner, the top desk drawer you open repeatedly, and so on. If your theme is ‘calm’ and you have it posted on the dashboard of your car, the next time someone cuts you off while driving or you find yourself waiting endlessly in a traffic jam, you’ll have an instant visual reminder of how you want to be in that experience.

* Each evening, pull out a journal or notebook (decorated with your theme word, of course!) and jot down an example of how you lived out your theme that day.

How else will you use your annual theme? Feel free to share your ideas below, or on Instagram or Facebook!

What Would A Blank Do Now?

Christi Hegstad January 14th, 2018

What would a ______ do now?

Coaching Tip of the Week:

What is your top goal for 2018?

To write a book? Grow your team? Host a retreat? Earn a certification? Strengthen your leadership skills? Obtain a degree? Launch a podcast, blog, tv show, or business?

And, what tends to get in your way?

For many, distractions, procrastination, uncertainty, or lack of clarity keep our goals just out of reach. When we’re not sure what to do next, we can easily find something to fill the time – often in the form of scrolling social media, finding (or creating) busywork, surfing the internet, watching TV, or adding lower-priority items to our to-do lists.

It may keep us busy, but not necessarily moving in the direction of our dreams.

This week, ask yourself, “What would a [your goal] do now?”.

Write that question on a sticky note (or if you’ve got one of my magnets like the one pictured here, use that!). Fill in the blank with your #1 goal, then place it somewhere prominent.

For example, “What would a published author do now?”

“What would an award-winning CEO do now?”

“What would a compassionate, highly-respected leader do now?”

Then, whenever you find your mind wandering or your hand reaching for your phone (or whatever your distraction of choice), answer that question – then do that thing.

Game-changer! You’ll find yourself moving much more purposefully and swiftly toward your Bold Goal with this simple action!

Share your thoughts below or on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter! And if you’d like coaching to gain clarity on your goals and action plans, let’s talk.

The One Person Who Must See Your Worth

Christi Hegstad January 8th, 2018

There will always be someone who can’t see your worth.

Don’t let it be you.

Mel Robbins

Coaching Tip of the Week:

When you look at your goals for 2018, is there a little (or perhaps loud) voice inside that says, “What makes you think you can achieve that? Who do you think you are?”

Self-doubt stunts more goals than actual obstacles ever will.

So this year, let’s make sure the first person who believes in you, cheers you on, and sees your tremendous worth is you.

This week, review your successes.

Confidence doesn’t come from one big event – it develops over a series of small successes and little wins.

In your journal, Evernote, or a fresh document, title the page “Celebration of Triumphs.” Then, list your various successes from the past year. Include the little ones, the ones no one else knew about, the minor wins that make you think, “I’m the only one who would ever think of that as a success!”

Even if (especially if) the past year didn’t feel very victorious all around, challenge yourself to do this exercise. Then, whenever doubt creeps in, turn to your list and remind yourself you can succeed – and you have the written proof!

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My Favorite Books of 2017

Christi Hegstad January 3rd, 2018

When you are an avid reader, you often find yourself in the midst of big, deep, difficult questions, such as:

Can I let go of all other responsibilities today and just read?

Do I stop buying books, or do I start buying more bookshelves?

What on earth am I going to read next?

Other people will also ask you hard things, including the most challenging of all for a voracious reader:

What’s your favorite book?

I typically respond to that question with various questions of my own: What genre? Favorite as in inspiring or as in a gripping story or as in a thought-changer? Classic or contemporary? etc., then offer a top ten list of sorts. But at the end of each year, I do try to generate a short-list of favorites read that year – hence today’s blog.

A few disclaimers:

* This list includes only books I read for the first time in 2017 – so the excellent books we discuss in the ASPIRE Success Club, for example, are not included.

* I utilize a highly-specific and technical rating system to generate this list, involving a handwritten book journal and foil stars. 🙂

* I’m only including nonfiction books (which is what I mostly read) on this list, however I will share my fiction faves later this week on Instagram. (Side note: If you’re a book lover, let’s connect on Insta! I post most books I read [except the ones I dislike] along with a brief description of my thoughts and takeaways.)

OK, enough chit-chat – let’s dig into my 3 favorite nonfiction books of 2017:

Option B by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant (Penguin Random House, 2017).

If you ask someone what to read next, how often do you expect them to recommend a book about navigating grief? Since reading Option B, I have actually done this often. Powerful, practical, and beautifully written, this book is a terrific resource for anyone who has ever experienced adversity or loss, or who may experience it in the future. It’s also invaluable for those wishing to support others through difficult times, such as family members, leaders, friends, and coworkers.

You can read my experience (and it truly was an experience) with this book here.

Of Mess & Moxie by Jen Hatmaker (HarperCollins, 2017).

When we discuss books in the ASPIRE Success Club, members frequently make two points: 1) “I wish I had read this when I was younger,” and 2) “Until reading/discussing this book, I thought it [whatever ‘it’ the book addresses] was just me.” I experienced both of these when reading this hilarious, heartwarming, insightful, and affirming book!

Hatmaker has the unique ability to make the reader laugh, cry, and say, “Oh my gosh, YES!” all within the same page. I actually didn’t highlight much in this one – it read so much like a story! – but one of my favorite lines:

“There is no scarcity in creativity… There is no such thing as too much wisdom and literature and story and craftsmanship. There is room for you.” (p99)

The Little Book of Hygge by Meik Wiking (William Morrow, 2017).

A surprise hit! I’ve been somewhat obsessed with Denmark ever since reading about its happiness factor in Dan Buettner’s book, Thrive (one of my 2012 favorite books, actually – learn more here). This quick little book shared the basics of hygge, marked by things such as candles, books, music, cozy quilts, warm socks. In a nutshell, “Hygge is about giving your responsible, stressed-out, achiever adult a break. Relax. Just for a little while” (p105). That’s exactly what I did when reading this book, and the feeling continued well after I closed the back cover.

You can read my reaction here (if the link doesn’t get you there, scroll down my Instagram feed to March 10, 2017).

As a literacy advocate, one of my favorite things to hear (and a big reason why I post books so often on Instagram) is someone saying they read a book because of my recommendation. If this list prompts you to read something new, please let me know! And feel free to share YOUR top books of 2017 below or on Instagram or Facebook. Happy Reading, friends!

Want to see my favorite books from the past several years? You can find them by year: 2016, 2015, 2014, 2013, 2012. Join us for incredible book discussions and much more in the ASPIRE Success Club!

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