A few years after starting my business, I joined my first mastermind group. I’ll be honest: I didn’t really know what it was, and I was actually a bit afraid to enroll, but everything about it just sounded right. After three years of trying to figure things out on my own and craving insight from other successful leaders, I felt deep inside that I needed to do this – scared or not.
Twelve years and numerous masterminds later, I am so glad I honored that feeling.
Aside from one-on-one coaching, nothing has propelled my business – and in many ways, my life – as much as participating in mastermind groups. And for the past six years, I have had the privilege of facilitating mastermind groups for high-achieving, purposeful women looking to accomplish a bold goal while honoring their values, serving their families and communities, and having a blast in the process.
The term ‘mastermind’ was reportedly coined by Napoleon Hill in his classic book, Think And Grow Rich. He describes the mastermind as the ‘intangible force, likened to a third [master] mind’ that forms when two or more people working toward a definite purpose come together.
“When high achievers are asked about the one thing that contributed the most to their becoming a millionaire,” Chicken Soup for the Soul creator Jack Canfield recently posted on Facebook, “participation in a mastermind is their primary answer.”
Canfield went on to share a great, concise description of the mastermind:
“The foundational philosophy of a mastermind is that more can be achieved in less time when people work together – focusing energy, resources, knowledge, and insights on creating solutions and opportunities for one another.”
In the masterminds I have participated in as well as those I have facilitated, I have always, always found this to be the case. Participants experience tangible, goal-oriented results as well as something even deeper: camaraderie, intimate trust, and lifelong friendship. Some of my closest friends on the planet began as my mastermind partners!
Masterminds come in all shapes and sizes: Some with revenue minimums and some without. Some with unlimited membership and some with a maximum of five people. Some costing upwards of $50,000 for the year and some for free. If you are considering joining a mastermind, here are a few questions to ask yourself:
What do I most hope to gain from my experience?
Before seeking out a mastermind group, decide what you want to gain from your involvement. Increased revenue? Completion of your book? To launch a nonprofit? Host your first live event? Friendship, laughter, and a true sense of camaraderie? People to bounce ideas off of and help you prioritize? Determine your mastermind goals, even loose ones, so you can ask about them before enrolling.
Who is leading the mastermind, and are they credible?
Don’t be afraid to ask the leader of your mastermind questions. Have they facilitated masterminds before? What kind of results have past participants experienced? What business or leadership experience does she or he have? This article may provide more ideas as well.
How much support can I expect?
How often will your mastermind group meet? Is one-on-one coaching also included? Is a discussion forum provided for questions between the meetings? Is your facilitator available to answer questions by email or during office hours? Will any training or content be provided? Know what will be available for you once you begin.
What do I wish I had in my work, business, and/or life – and can the mastermind provide it?
Over the past several years, my mastermind participants have expressed gratitude not only for the coaching and masterminding, but for unexpected gifts as well: “I loved knowing I had people I could bounce an idea off of.” “If I needed an extra set of eyes before hitting ‘publish’ on my blog, a Masterminder was always willing to help.” “I didn’t realize how isolated I had been as an entrepreneur prior to the Mastermind!”
What will ‘success’ look like to me?
As I mentioned, I have always found my involvement in masterminds worth far more than the investment – even when the investment was gasp-worthy. Part of that I credit to asking myself, prior to starting, “What will make me look back on this experience and say, ‘Yes, that was definitely worth it!’?” If your revenue increases to an amount more than the investment fee? If you end the program with a greater sense of clarity, confidence, or work/life balance? If you continue meeting with your mastermind partners after the program has ended?
Pursue the best program you can afford, even if it’s a stretch. I have gasped with nearly every check I’ve written for professional coaching and masterminding, which continues to increase as my business grows. I have always received a greater return on my investment.
Surround yourself with brilliance. Jim Rohn famously said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Embrace the group that will encourage, uplift, share generously, hold you accountable, and challenge you to be your absolute best.
Make the most of it. Put mastermind event dates on your calendar right away and hold them sacred. Contribute to the private discussion groups. Engage in one-on-one calls with your mastermind partners. The cliche is true, you get out of it what you put into it.
Networking groups, book clubs, professional associations…you have numerous opportunities to grow yourself personally and professionally, and all of those are valuable (I have been involved in all of them since the start of my business as well). But none of those groups quite compare to the intimate, focused, trajectory-changing purpose of a mastermind group – I cannot recommend them highly enough! I encourage you to consider enrolling in one – even if it’s scary. Your future self will thank you for it!
We are now enrolling for our sixth Mastermind group, which runs from September 2018 – March 2019! Click here for more information and to request your application.
If you read my last newsletter, sent over two months ago, you know I intentionally stepped away from many business routines this summer. Perhaps I’ll share in an upcoming post exactly why that felt necessary, but suffice it to say this summer proved the perfect time to take a step back, pull in the reins, and refocus!
Enter: The Summer Of Clarity.
We have done massive work this season to clarify, simplify, and streamline, with exceptional – and surprising – results both professionally and personally. I want to share some of the most impactful actions with you and I encourage you to give one a try, especially if you feel in a ‘heavy’ season.
I have kept each item brief but am happy to elaborate on any – just post your questions on my Instagram or Facebook and I will do my best to answer!
1. I decluttered my entire office, office closet, and workspace. Purged old papers, shredded outdated files, consolidated binders, minimized supply cabinets, you name it. I also uncovered many books that I will be giving away soon, so make sure you’re on our list if you’d like a chance at great reading material!
2. While I have themed / batched my days for quite a while now, I started batching my weeks, too. This has been monumental! I will definitely be sharing this strategy with my clients this fall!
3. I walked and walked – nearly every morning this summer – and during those walks I had my best business ideas. I also lost about 10 pounds that I had gained over the past year, so that was a fun bonus.
4. Sales experts recommend charging $97 instead of $100; research apparently shows people are more likely to buy at the $97 mark even though it’s just a $3 difference. With simplicity and clarity as our focus, we let go of the $97 rationale and rounded everything to the nearest denomination of ten. Sorry, sales psychologists – this is just easier!
5. I moved my writing desk right up to the window. No more office distractions during writing time! (The birds and greenery are more inspiring than distracting. :))
6. I updated my Vision Statement and began reviewing it, along with my Purpose Statement and Guiding Principles, on a daily basis again. I had temporarily fallen out of that habit, and I could tell!
7. I minimalized my closet. I’m not quite at the capsule wardrobe, but pretty close, and it has been oddly liberating.
8. After building my email list for years, I realized that I really only want to send newsletters to people who look forward to them and open them regularly. Many business owners tout the importance of a big list; I want to make sure everyone on mine is not just receiving but truly and purposefully benefiting. We encouraged those no longer excited to hear from us to unsubscribe. (You can subscribe – or resubscribe – here.)
9. I restructured my coaching offerings to 3 simple packages. In a nutshell, this will benefit everyone involved! (If you are interested in pursuing coaching this fall or winter, be sure to get in touch ASAP.)
10. We systematized a TON. Over the course of the past few months I’ve paid close attention to all repetitive tasks – from email responses to file documentation to home projects – then created systems wherever possible. Like I’ve said for years, systems liberate you! The addition of more systems has been HUGE.
11. I made several significant (aka, scary) changes – but with a time limit. For example, we changed the way we do some of our business processes and will revisit in 6 months to see if we want to continue with those changes. I literally put that review date in the calendar. This time limit has been extremely helpful in preventing the “oh my gosh, now it must be this way until the end of time” way of thinking that can sometimes hold me back.
12. I finalized the 5 Pillars of Clarity and Confidence – the 5 areas that, for 15+ years, I have coached people on the most. Meaning and Purpose serve as the foundation for all 5 pillars. Some clients will focus on one pillar, others will walk through all five – the framework will meet you where you are and help you get where you want/need to be.
13. I stopped thinking about certain tasks, or transferring them from to-do list to to-do list, and did them. (Novel idea, eh?!) For example, I had two tasks to complete in order to advance my coaching credential to the next level. I’m embarrassed to admit those two tasks lingered for weeks months years … but I completed them, passed my exam, and am now a PCC!
14. Not my proudest moment, but I realized throughout all of this clarifying and simplifying that I had been holding on to some unhelpful ‘nontangibles,’ too: old resentments, expectations for how things ‘should’ be, and the like. I did the necessary mindset work and those seemed to fall away.
15. I journaled a ton. Like with the walking (see #3), and often in combination with the walking, ideas seemed to pour out – many of which led to the items listed here.
And a bonus tip: I went on a 2-week social media detox. I will be writing more about this experience – including the results and surprising discoveries – in an upcoming article, but I highly recommend it even for shorter periods of time.
I still have a few actions to check off my Summer of Clarity list, but starting was the hardest part – now it’s just finishing touches. The resulting clarity has freed up so much mental (and in some cases, physical) space! If one of these ideas resonates with you, give it a try. And if I can support you in any way, feel free to reach out.
Here’s to CLARITY and SIMPLICITY!
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Coaching Tip:
What dream or goal have you been putting on hold until ‘the perfect time’?
When do you anticipate that perfect time coming along?
Unless you have a week or month completely cleared on your calendar for your goal (or a few years, in the case of something like a degree or certification), try playing with the idea of now as the perfect time. One small step toward your goal could begin the momentum and excitement to propel you forward!
Inspired Action:
Take one deliberate action toward your top dream or goal this week: Purchase the domain name. Write the table of contents. Hire the coach. Join the mastermind group.
What action will you take? Share here for greater accountability!
Imagine sitting in one of these chairs, joined by a couple of your most inspiring role models, dreaming and making plans for your best ‘next chapter.’ What possibilities come to mind?
As I mentioned to my email subscribers earlier this week, our coaching firm has many changes underway as we celebrate 15 years in business and look ahead to the next 15 years. In working with my coaches, mastermind partners, and inspiring role models, we have exciting developments on the horizon!
As a result, you may hear less from me for a while as I focus dedicated time to my coaching clients, ASPIRE Success Club, family (another senior year approaching!), and some significant projects in the works.
About a year ago, while meeting with my coach, I inexplicably burst into tears.
On paper, everything looked great: healthy family, respected business, making a difference for people and causes I care deeply about.
Yet I had hit a wall.
It was taking me longer than usual to complete tasks. I was procrastinating, even on easy or really cool projects. I felt unmotivated, overwhelmed, and, quite frankly, in a slump, and my usual methods and strategies for lifting out of it just weren’t working.
So it was a good thing I had brought tissues to that particular coaching session.
As a (recovering) perfectionist, (frequent) Type A, (meaningful- but still high-) achiever, it’s a bit scary for me to share stories like this. Maybe you, as an achiever yourself, ask yourself similar questions:
Aren’t I supposed to have it all figured out by now?
Aren’t I viewed as having my act together?
Don’t others rely on me to always be strong, unflappable, inspired, and darn near perfect?
Well, no, actually.
Fact is, nearly all of us hit a slump from time to time. You likely have before, and (sorry) you likely will again. And that’s ok – as long as you acknowledge it, feel the feelings, seek support, and take action.
Recently I shared one such action on Instagram and Facebook. Here are more to add to your toolkit:
1. Focus On What You Can Influence.
Let’s face it: There are a lot of things in this world that we cannot control. Yet when we invest time and energy focusing on those things, we are often left feeling powerless and unmotivated.
Focus instead on what you can influence.
Maybe you can’t control the weather on the day of your outdoor grand opening, but you can have a backup location or rain date prepared. Maybe you can’t control the fact that your company is being acquired, but you can decide how you will carry yourself through the changes.
Like Victor Frankl demonstrated so powerfully, we are always in control of at least one thing: our attitudes. “Everything can be taken [from us] but one thing,” wrote Frankl. “The last of the human freedoms: to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
2. Go For Depth.
Then, when you’ve decided what’s truly worthy of your energy and attention, you can focus on mastery.
Going deep – whether in a project, relationship, course of study, or profession – can boost motivation and put you in a state of flow, which works wonders for lifting out of a slump. “A deep life is a good life,” wrote Cal Newport in one of my favorite nonfiction books, “any way you look at it.”
3. Help Someone Else.