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Learn Something From Everyone

Christi Hegstad August 2nd, 2021
Great thinkers don’t boast about how much they know; they marvel at how little they understand… A mark of lifelong learners is recognizing they can learn something from everyone they meet. – Adam Grant
Do you believe you can learn something from everyone?
What if you approached this week committed to doing so?
You might learn a new perspective.
You might learn a way of communicating that makes everyone feel included.
You might learn how not to behave.
Whatever it is, take note. Never stop learning!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

Monthly Review – July Lessons Learned

Christi Hegstad August 1st, 2021

Time for my monthly roundup of lessons learned or relearned. Here are some of the key lessons July brought my way:

1. Some days I wonder if any of us truly feels like a full-fledged adult! 😀 (This one stemmed from a lot of really funny conversations this month!)

2. Asking myself ‘What’s the lesson here?’ is one of the best habits I’ve ever developed.

3. You attract what you track.

4. Sometimes (often?) the journey far surpasses the destination.

5. Investing in your personal growth is hugely worthwhile.

6. I believe I could easily eat Mediterranean food every single day.

7. Time flies.

8. Time especially flies with kiddos! I savor the moments with them.

9. My favorite days include a healthy blend of productivity + peacefulness.

10. Is there anything better than watching someone light up as they share what they’re passionate about?!

What food could you eat daily and never tire of? What is one of the best habits you’ve developed? What do your favorite days include?

Share a lesson below or on Facebook – or let me know if any of mine resonated with you!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

Finding Purpose In The Doing Rather Than The Result

Christi Hegstad July 27th, 2021

If I told you the artwork you see here was painted by a 9-year-old, what would you think?

What if I told you it was painted by a 49-year-old?

Many of my recent conversations (and thus posts) have focused on perfectionism. It seems many achievers equate success with perfect – or at least exceptional – performance. Anything less can make us feel like less.

This painting was done just the other day, by me, in my personal journal. My watercolor skills have not improved probably since age 9.

But you know what?

When I look at this painting, I feel proud.

Not because I think it’s an outstanding work of art.

And certainly not because I see massive improvement in my skill over the years. (In fact, my watercolor skills may have even declined!)

But I feel proud because the purpose of playing with watercolors is, for me, 100% personal. The feel of the brush sliding across the paper soothes my nerves. The jovial colors that appear as I flip through my journal brighten my mood. The fact that I don’t judge or criticize myself at all for the outcome, imperfect as it is, feels liberating.

We don’t have to do all things perfectly in order for them to have purpose.

Don’t get me wrong: I still have many areas where I want to excel and improve. Growth is one of my core values, and also highly important in our quality of life.

But sometimes, the purpose can be found in the mere act of the doing – not because of the end result.

Do you agree? What do you do merely for the joy, or emotion, or delight it brings you in doing it?

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

Confidence Or Humility: Which Is Better?

Christi Hegstad July 25th, 2021
You can be confident in your ability to achieve a goal in the future while maintaining the humility to question whether you have the right tools in the present. That’s the sweet spot of confidence.
Adam Grant
Which is better: Confidence or humility?
In Think Again, Dr. Grant shares that the most effective leaders ‘score high in both confidence and humility.’ He discusses the importance of recognizing our strengths while also being aware of our weaknesses.
‘Confident humility’ is a phrase appearing often throughout this outstanding book, and it has definitely resonated with me. How about you?
This week, practice ‘confident humility.’
For example:
Believe in yourself and your success while still acknowledging you have more to learn.
Honor your values and opinions while remaining open to hearing someone else’s.
Take the next action toward your goal while understanding this may require asking for help.
As with most things in life, confidence / humility isn’t either / or. This week, let’s embrace the ‘and’!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

My 7 Favorite Mid-Summer Motivators!

Christi Hegstad July 21st, 2021

Maybe it’s a post-vacation lull.

The heat.

The fact that everyone seems to be out of the office.

Or maybe it’s for no reason whatsoever – but you’re feeling a massive lack of get-up-and-go these days.

If this doesn’t sound like you, skip this article and leave your best tips below!

But if it does and you’re craving a bit of a boost, here are 7 of my favorite mid-summer motivators:

1. Connect with inspiring people.

Schedule a meeting with your mastermind group, set up a session with your coach, or call a colleague who’s always doing something cool.

2. Return to something you used to love.

Crossword puzzles in the evening? Crafting macrame plant holders? Reading a book you loved as a child? Revisit something that previously lit you up.

3. Try something new.

On the flip side, try something brand-new – and give yourself permission to do it poorly, too. Release any expectations and just have fun experimenting.

4. Disconnect.

Hide your phone and laptop for a length of time that feels challenging to you. Repeat every few days.

5. Immerse yourself in study.

This may sound counterintuitive, but deepening your learning in something you’re passionate about can serve as a great energizer.

6. Take a break.

If a week off isn’t in the cards, try a morning off and head to your favorite walking trail, or spend an afternoon at your local botanical gardens.

7. Remember your ‘why.’

I’ve said it a million times, but remembering why you started – reconnecting with your purpose – is the greatest motivator I know!

And in case anyone needs the reminder, we aren’t designed to be motivated and productive 24/7. A temporary lack of motivation can be a good cue to simply relax for a while! But if you’re looking for a boost, I sincerely hope one of these ideas speaks to you.

Which one will you try, or what idea does it prompt for you? Share on LinkedInInstagram, or Facebook!!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

Knowledge, Wisdom, + Not Having All The Answers

Christi Hegstad July 18th, 2021
If knowledge is power, knowing what we don’t know is wisdom.
Adam Grant
When I was in college, I participated in a training for a peer counselor program. One of the points we were taught – and that I still apply to this day – is the reminder that we don’t have to have all the answers.
“I don’t know – but we can sure find out” is a valid, and wise, response.
This week, celebrate what you know – and be o.k. with not knowing everything.
This suggestion may seem obvious. But if you’re an achiever, a leader, or someone people often turn to with questions, it’s not always easy.
Let them know they’ve asked a great question.
Then explore ways you, they, or both of you together you can find the answers.
None of us knows everything. It’s helpful, like Grant suggests above, to view that awareness as wisdom – not a character flaw!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

Effortless: Book Review, Takeaways, + Application

Christi Hegstad July 15th, 2021

Greg McKeown made quite a splash with his first book, Essentialism, which helped us decide what matters most and then focus our energy in those few areas.

With his latest release, Effortless, McKeown offers a ‘next step’ in the essentialism journey. He opens with the line, “Not everything has to be so hard,” then spends the next 200 or so pages providing tips, strategies, and real-life examples for living with greater ease.

Not problem-free, of course, but perhaps with a bit more lightness and freedom than we currently feel.

Below you’ll find my top takeaways, overall impressions, and to whom I’d recommend this book.

Effortless Book Not Everything Hard

Takeaways

1. Reframe your questions.

As a coach, my profession is built in large part on this principle, and I appreciate how McKeown addresses this. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, getting stalled, or asking why everything is so hard, he poses different questions:

“What if this could be easy?” (p27)

“What if all those steps I’d assumed this task entailed were not in fact required steps at all?” (p33)

“What are the minimum steps required to complete this?” (p118)

Yes, we need to deal with complex and difficult things. But maybe they don’t need to be as difficult as we tend to make them, and McKeown’s approach can help us rethink these situations.

2. Know exactly what you’re moving toward.

“Define what done looks like” is the title of chapter 6. While this may seem obvious, how often are we truly crystal-clear about what we’re heading toward?

“If you want to make something hard, indeed truly impossible, to complete,” writes McKeown, “all you have to do is make the end goal as vague as possible.”

I’ve long said vague and fuzzy goals leads to vague and fuzzy actions – or no action at all. This chapter, which is only about six pages long, packs a powerful punch regarding clarity, focus, and determining what ‘done’ looks like.

Effortless Book What Happens Next Matters Most

3. What you do next is what counts.

Years ago, while at my children’s middle school, I took a photo of a quote on the wall, attributed to Buddha: “Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” (Incidentally, if you scroll through my Instagram feed, you’ll see this as one of my first-ever posts, too!)

The final chapter in Effortless speaks to this concept beautifully.

Here, McKeown describes a health issue his family is navigating – one without clear answers or known outcomes. He vulnerably shares how, during a particularly challenging period, they had to choose, each day, whether they would obsess with worry or focus on what they could do, what they could control.

The question / choice he poses here: “Do I choose the heavier or the lighter path?”

Effortless Book Tabs Highlights

Overall Impression and Recommendation

I read a ridiculous amount in the personal + professional development space. Likely for that reason, Effortless didn’t startle me with anything wildly new or earth-shattering – however, the way McKeown presents the information and the examples he offers made this an incredibly worthwhile read. Perhaps you can tell from the above photo, I tabbed and highlighted a lot!

I’d recommend this book to those who loved Essentialism (I do recommend reading that one first, as it will provide a solid foundation) and to those feeling like things are harder than they need to be.

I also believe McKeown’s questions and tips can benefit business owners, leaders, or anyone who feels bogged down by the sheer number of to-do’s required on any given day.

Questions? Thoughts? Takeaways from your own reading experience? Share below or on LinkedIn, Instagram, or Facebook!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

 

Perfection or Purpose: Which Serves You Better?

Christi Hegstad July 14th, 2021

I’ve danced with perfectionism for much of my life. And I must admit, it hasn’t been the best dance partner.

Here are a few of the things I experienced when I was deep in my perfectionist ways:

* If I couldn’t do it well or completely, I wouldn’t start at all.

* If I made a mistake, even a typo in an email, it would occupy ridiculous amounts of space in my brain.

* I celebrated overall achievement. If I didn’t achieve the whole thing, I didn’t celebrate.

I still need to keep my perfectionist tendencies in check, but leaning into my purpose instead has made all the difference. For example:

* Instead of asking, “Can I do it perfectly?” I ask, “Does this align with my core values?”

* When I make mistakes, I course-correct as best I can. I also consider what this will mean a year from now – and more often than not, the answer is that I won’t even remember it a year from now.

* I celebrate all along the way: mini-milestones, unquantifiable signs of growth, the fact that I’m still taking action even after setbacks. The entire journey counts, not just the mountaintop view.

I’ll be honest – I still cringe at my typos. 🙂 But living and working according to my personal purpose, rather than to some external measure of perfection, has felt so much better and, ultimately, has led to much more significant success, too.

Can you relate? What helps you let go of the white-knuckle grip perfectionism can have on us? Share your tips and ideas below or on LinkedIn, Instagram, or Facebook!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

 

When Did You Last Feel Heard?

Christi Hegstad July 11th, 2021
Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.
Attrib. David Augsburger
When was the last time you felt heard – truly and deeply heard?
When someone listened intently, didn’t glance at their phone, didn’t try to solve your challenge or one-up your story. Just honestly, actively listened to what you said.
Has it been a while?
Has it been a while since you’ve helped someone else truly feel heard, too?
This week, listen deeply.
Whether it’s a one-on-one with a team member, a breakfast chat with your teenager, or a call with a client, practice the art of active listening.
Remove distractions.
Look them in the eye.
Give them your full attention, sharing back with them what you heard them say.
They will likely leave the conversation feeling cared for and important.
You likely will, too!
Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

‘Recovery Time’ As A Measure Of Success

Christi Hegstad July 9th, 2021

Do you ever measure success based on your ‘recovery time’?

For example:

Maybe it used to take you a week to get over uninvited criticism; now it’s an hour or two.

Or maybe when you made a mistake during a presentation, it would haunt you for your next several engagements. Now, you assess, learn from it, and move on.

While spreadsheets, numbers, and account statements hold an important role in our goals, much of the growth we experience isn’t as easy to quantify – but is equally important.

Take a look at something you now do regularly that a year ago you didn’t know you could do at all.

Or consider what used to derail your thoughts for days that you now manage in a matter of hours.

Celebrate these wins, too.

They all count!

Christi Hegstad, PhD, PCC, is the Practical + Purposeful Coach for Achievers!  Join our email community for weekly coaching tips, free resources, book recommendations, and more!

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