Sometimes our greatest gifts grow from what we are not given. – Erica Bauermeister
Sometimes our greatest gifts grow from what we are not given. – Erica Bauermeister
We’re hearing – and experiencing – it everywhere: Zoom fatigue. Election exhaustion. Pandemic overwhelm.
A meme I saw last week captured well what many of us may feel:
“I’m tired but I’m trying.”
Quality sleep, good nutrition, and other basics are important, and I’ll leave those to the health coaches to share their expertise. What I’d love to offer you today are 7 quick – and in some cases, counterintuitive – ways to help put a zip back in your step and a light in your leadership!
Two coaching clients have opened businesses in the past few weeks. ASPIRE Success Club members have led, achieved, transformed, and grown in exponential ways. My own coaches and mastermind partners provide extraordinary perspective. No matter how my day is going, these meetings and discussions never fail to inspire me!
Who inspires you? Who consistently leaves you feeling better after a conversation with them? Whether it’s a friend or family member, your coach, or a peer at work, make it a point to connect with them for a mutually uplifting conversation. (And if no one comes to mind, join us in ASPIRE – inspiration abounds!)
I want to encourage this in two parts:
First, decide for yourself what your top priorities are for the day – before you look at your phone, email, etc. Yes, your priorities may change, but begin your day discerning what *you* place at the top before you let others determine what’s important for you.
Then, to the extent possible, focus on being a ‘maker’ in the morning. Plan a meeting agenda, design a spreadsheet, paint a mural … create something from your own wellspring of inspiration (it’s there, trust me!) before you consume – ie, via social media – what everyone else is creating.
My coaching clients know that before we dive into our focus for the session, I’m going to ask them to share a ‘win’ they’ve experienced recently. You can do something similar in your department meetings or one-on-ones. Get in the habit, and help others get in the habit, of celebrating what’s going well – an instant energy boost!
The title of this article is an example of what not to say. 🙂
Instead of “How can I be less tired?” ask “How can I feel more energized / vibrant?”
Instead of “How can I be less frustrated?” ask “How can I help my day run more smoothly?”
As one of my clients wisely put it last week, “Words are everything.” Be intentional with yours – whether you’re saying them out loud or in your mind.
My guess is you’re probably doing a lot for others these days, so this one may seem counterintuitive. But I’d also guess that much of what you’re doing for others – around your home, for your team, with your child’s schooling – may be out of necessity.
That’s important. Also important is finding fun and inspiring ways to care for others: pay for the coffee for the person behind you, volunteer for the cause you believe in so deeply, write a social media post highlighting someone else’s awesomeness.
One of the first items I ever cross-stitched had this quote (attribution unknown): “The best exercise for the heart is reaching down and lifting up another.” Twenty-five years later, that cross-stitch still serves as a reminder in my home.
While traveling to new lands might not be a viable option right now, get creative with your scenery: Rearrange furniture. Declutter your desk. Refresh the photos or artwork on your wall. Put up your holiday decorations (twinkle lights make a surprising difference!). Focus on being creative within your current reality rather than wishing it away.
Even if it’s just for five minutes, even if it’s only 20 degrees outside – get some fresh air and move your body. Nearly all of my best ideas lately have come while on a walk, not while sitting in front of my computer. And if walking isn’t an option, then stretch, dance, or replace with another movement-oriented activity.
Which one of these ideas – or a new one that comes to mind – will make the most impact for you today? Give it a whirl, and let me know how it goes!
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When I opened my email today, the first message I read was from someone I haven’t heard from in years.
We had collaborated on some projects way back when, but work and life took us in different directions. Unfortunately our paths haven’t crossed since.
Until today, when I received this thoughtful email, thanking me for some of the ways I impacted her life.
There’s no way she could have known that it was exactly the type of email I needed, at exactly the right time.
In addition to the immense gratitude I felt for her in that moment, it also got me thinking about my own behavior:
How many times have I thought about sending a note recently, but then let time get away from me?
How many times have I cheered from afar for an article someone wrote, but didn’t take the time to let them know?
How many times do I have good intentions, but don’t follow through with intentional action?
I love a good random act of kindness, and I’ll keep doing those. But what I’m committing to at the moment are intentional acts of kindness. Those actions that require a combination of forethought and follow-through. For example:
* Anonymously leaving a pre-paid grocery card on the front door of an acquaintance who recently lost his job.
* Sending a handwritten thank-you card to a business mentor from years ago, indicating that her lessons still impact me to this day.
* Emailing a service provider who recently went above and beyond to thank him for his exceptional work, and cc’ing his supervisor.
In her outstanding book, Wonder, R. J. Palacio writes:
I agree 100%: An act of kindness can change someone’s day, someone’s life, and ultimately the world.
What are your favorite intentional acts of kindness?
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In the ASPIRE Success Club this week, we are discussing life lessons:
Those things we’ve learned along the way, the ones we wish we had known when we were younger, the advice we’d share with others.
The lessons vary greatly, each one framed by our own life experiences.
“Trust your intuition.”
“Do what you love.”
“Laugh more, worry less.”
“Believe in yourself.”
“Everything will be o.k.”
And many more.
If you wrote a book of the most important lessons you’ve learned so far, what would top your list?
What if you wrote that book at age 100 – do you think your lessons would change?
Share your thoughts below or on LinkedIn, Instagram or Facebook. I’d love to know what you’ve learned over the years!
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We’re approaching mid-November, a time when many people will decide that whatever changes they want to make in work or life might as well just wait for the new year.
Whether it’s implementing a healthy new habit, taking charge of your finances, moving your business idea forward, decluttering your office… What if you decided today is the day for your fresh start?
What if you started off the new year ahead of the game?
Below are 5 steps to help you do just that. I am guessing that, as an achiever, you may find #4 the most challenging, but let me know!
1. DECIDE to make the fresh start.
Endless pondering, considering, waffling, thinking about, or wondering can be exhausting. You can find great power in making – and committing to – a decision to begin.
2. ENVISION what you’re moving toward.
That’s right: Dream. Imagine the ideal. Create a clear picture in your mind of what you are moving toward, not what you’re stopping or letting go. This distinction is subtle but so important!
3. BRAINSTORM possible steps.
My favorite method for this involves creating a breakthrough map, which you can see an example of pictured below and read more about here.

4. CHOOSE ONE from step #3.
Yes, just one. The achiever in you will likely want to conduct a complete overhaul, which might feel exciting for a few days or weeks and then get abandoned completely. Choose just one to practice consistently for a week or two; you can then add another, and then another. Enjoy sustainable, rather than fleeting, success.
5. Take an ACTION.
Anyone else really good at planning but not so much with the follow-through? (It’s one of the reasons I believe everyone – including me – needs a coach!) So take an action in the direction of what you envisioned in step #2: Maybe that action is securing a coach, or printing out your last 3 months’ of spending, or registering the domain name for your business idea, or taking a 5-minute walk, or joining an action-oriented group for support.
I am embarking on a fresh start myself today, and I can’t wait to see how improved that aspect of my life feels when January 1 rolls around! How about you? Ready to start?
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We’re kidding ourselves if we think we’re not leaving a legacy. Everything we do touches the lives of other people. – Leider + Shapiro
Whether you run a solo business or lead a team of 10,000.
Whether you have a million Facebook followers or no Facebook account at all.
Whether you routinely receive feedback on your work or never hear a word.
Regardless, you are touching lives, making a difference, leaving a legacy.
This week, decide your legacy.
Our legacy isn’t just how we’re remembered 100 years from now, and it isn’t simply determined by chance.
It’s also how we’re remembered when we leave a meeting, an interaction, a check-out line, a workday.
So, how do we decide our legacy?
By deciding, on purpose and with intention, who and how we will be in the world.
Then living that out, each and every day.
Thank you for making a positive, purposeful difference!
Every morning, much like a favorite children’s TV show or an online dictionary, I choose a word for the day.
Or rather, it seems a word chooses me.
Either way, this simple 20-second practice of setting a daily intention has proven especially helpful in recent weeks.
Today, for example, my intention is ‘Ever Forward.’
As I look at my schedule, priorities, and goals for the day, I want to intentionally conduct them with my vision for the future in mind. I want to take actions today that align with my ideal tomorrow. Ever forward.
When I think about the hike I plan to take this afternoon, I want to push myself to go a bit further than I have in a while. Ever forward.
Even as I consider my evening at home, I intend to do activities – like reading, writing, and chatting with family – that I can enjoy in the present and that also plant seeds for future growth and delight. Ever forward.
So although I don’t really ‘do’ anything with my intention once it’s set, it definitely makes an appearance throughout the day – automatically infusing my actions with greater meaning and purpose.
What would serve as a powerful intention for you today?
If you have an overflowing schedule, maybe your intention today is ENERGY.
If you feel a bit stressed or anxious, maybe your intention is PEACE.
If you’re considering a career change or a move, maybe your intention is CLARITY.
Consider your values and your vision for the future. Look at your agenda for today. Then choose a purposeful word or phrase that you want to represent the day – your daily intention.
May you have an intentional, purposeful day!
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For the past few months, I’ve been keeping track of the daily weather in my journal. I had begun to feel like the days where I had boundless energy and ambition were typically sunny ones, whereas my energy seemed to wane after too many gray days in a row. I wanted to see if there was any basis behind these thoughts.
I have done similar self-studies with moon cycles, workload levels, and more. I know, I know! But sometimes the PhD in me just needs the data. 🙂
As I’ve pondered this a bit, I’ve come to some interesting realizations:
If my energy feels lower on gray days, is that due to the gray day – or could it be that I didn’t get out for my walk that day?
Or is it because drizzle expands my hair to 8 times its normal size, so perhaps it’s the continuous bad hair days impacting my energy and mood?
Or maybe it’s actually a bright and sunny day outside, and my windows just need cleaning?
I could continue speculating, but ultimately it comes back to this: Regardless of what I discover, I cannot control the weather.
Sunshine or derecho (a new experience for me this year), warmth or snow squall (another new one), it’s not in my control.
So, do I throw up my hands and say there’s nothing I can do about it?
Absolutely not.
I may not get to choose the weather, but I do get to choose my mindset.
I do get to choose my actions.
I do get to choose who and how I will be in the world today, regardless of the weather or anything else.
And so do you.
Where do you feel like things are out of your hands? Maybe it’s the pandemic. The election. Changing work policies. The countless other things that appear on the daily.
Rather than feeling exasperated, focus on what you can do.
You can choose your thoughts, your mindset, your response.
You can reach out for help.
You can do your research, share your feelings, take a deep breath, offer a helping hand to someone else, and myriad other actions.
Who and how will you choose to be in the world today – regardless of the weather or anything else?
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Change, as you well know, is a constant.
Circumstances change. Policies and procedures change. Leadership changes.
And we, as individuals, change. We change our minds, our career paths, our personal styles. As a coach and a passionate pursuer of growth, I am attuned to and in favor of intentional change.
But still, I have come to realize there are some things I intend to keep constant – to not change – no matter what.
For example, I intend to always:
* Work to further causes I am passionate about, like literacy and education.
* Treat people with kindness and respect, including people who may believe or vote or act differently than me.
* Donate to food pantries.
* Focus on what I can control / influence.
* Look for, and shine a light on, the positives and the difference-makers.
* Take action instead of complaining. (Or at least keeping complaining to a minimum! :-))
* Care for my family, community, and world in the best ways I know how.
* Continue to grow, evolve, open my mind, and learn new ways to make a meaningful impact.
The reason I don’t foresee these things changing? They are rooted in my values.
They connect to my core beliefs, to my moral compass, to the purpose of my life. They are like the roots of a tree, providing the foundation from which every other aspect of my life grows.
So even as circumstances, policies, leadership, and everything else in the world changes – and even as I personally change and grow – those above items remain constant. They are things that I don’t intend to change, no matter what.
How about you? What will remain constant within you, regardless of the changing circumstances around you?
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