I used to overthink, second-guess, and experience analysis paralysis with the best of them. Adopting “Decide And Take Action” as one of my guiding principles years ago has made a world of difference!
When I have a decision to make, I do my due diligence: Conduct the necessary homework, check in with my values and purpose, and weigh the possible outcomes.
Then, I make a confident decision, and immediately take an action in favor of it. Doing so instantly puts me on the pathway to success, plus it reduces or eliminates any “buyer’s remorse” or second-guessing that may follow a decision.
Embracing this guiding principle has saved me time, stress, and mental energy in a variety of ways! Consider giving it a try, or feel free to share below the action or guiding principle that helps you curb overthinking and move forward with clarity and confidence.
Here’s to clear and purposeful decision-making!
Lately I have been experiencing a fair amount of what I call “mental spinning.” I am in the midst of a large and meaningful project, and I seem to have hit a phase with more roadblocks and questions than forward movement and answers. In my head, it goes something like this:
Why is this so difficult?
Are these challenges here to test my resolve – or to tell me I’m going down the wrong path?
That last step didn’t work out as planned. What’s my next one? What if it doesn’t go as planned either?
Shouldn’t this be easier by now?
Am I meant to do this project? Is this project even meant to be done? Is this the right time?
Is it time to scrap my plan and start over?
Where’s my pillow and blankie? I’m exhausted.
What started off with excitement has veered into doubt, uncertainty, and second-guessing. Have you been there?
I have certainly been here before. And while I don’t consider this place fun, I do know from past experience that no matter what, I will learn something.
That knowing calms me a little…but doesn’t necessarily help with the immediate questions. For that, I tend to rely on two things that I want to share today, in hopes that they help you, too.
First, I review the project through the lens of my purpose. Does it align? Will it help me make the difference I am here to make? Are my values being honored, or is something missing? Taking an objective look at the project when filtered through my purpose typically either re-engages my resolve or tells me it’s time to let go.
Then, I ask myself a new question.
Since most mental spinning comes from a place of feeling stuck, the new question needs to emerge from a very different place. I uncovered a game-changer about six years ago, while developing the first Spark event.
At the time, I had quickly learned that pulling off a live public event required a LOT of detail – everything from the content and main objectives to things like timing of breaks, type of snacks, setup of tables, arrangement of centerpieces, special touches that would add value but not detract from the message… Needless to say, I realized I could easily become engulfed in details and lose sight of the big picture if I wasn’t careful.
So I asked myself one question: What would it look like if it all worked out?
What kind of emotion would I see in the participants’ faces? What would I hear them saying throughout the event? How would I feel as I stood on the stage or as I walked through the audience? At the end of the day, what would they tell me, what mindset would they leave with, what would I overhear them telling each other?
When I closed my eyes, I could vividly experience the outcome with all of my senses. It was a VERY different feeling than the mental spinning!
So from that point on, every day before I began working on whatever Spark detail required my attention, I would close my eyes for a moment and envision the event as if everything worked out.
And the most miraculous thing happened: I quit spinning over the details and took intentional, inspired action, plus the actual event turned out like that picture in my mind.
I learned that after a discernment process like this, which can take anywhere from a few minutes to a few days (sometimes even longer), the next right action becomes more clear.
If you feel yourself in mental spinning mode right now, ask yourself what it would look like if it all worked out. Focus on the what, rather than the how (imagine the ‘how’ occurred via magic wand if your mind won’t let it go!). Transcend the details and connect with the bigger picture, and see if that doesn’t direct you to your next inspired action.
As I mentioned, I am in the middle of this right now with a fairly significant project, and I honestly don’t know if my next right action will involve continuing or letting go. Impatient Christi wants the answer yesterday; Voice-Of-Experience Christi (reluctantly) knows pushing will only slow the process. But I do know the answer will come, and there is comfort in that knowing.
I can also tell you with 100% certainty: This morning when I changed my scenery and asked myself the question – What would it look like if it all worked out? – I got very different answers than mere minutes before when I felt stuck in the mire.
Give it a try! Ask yourself this question and see what arises. And let me know if you uncover a new question that helps pull you out of mental spinning and into a place of clear, inspired action.
Throughout MAP Inc.’s 15th year in business, I am excited to profile some of the Meaningful Achievers with whom I have been blessed to work! Check Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter (all @ChristiHegstad) for more.
If you have met Charlie Kiesling, you know she is like a burst of sunshine when she enters a room! Whether leading in her role as HR Director with AccessSystems, enjoying her family, or serving her community (in this photo Charlie, center, is accepting the prestigious Governor’s Volunteer award for her extensive community impact), Charlie seems to bring a level of energy and positivity to every activity she pursues.
I have been fortunate to know, be inspired by, and work with Charlie in a variety of ways over many years. She is a longtime member of the ASPIRE Success Club, for example, and participated in my most recent Mastermind group as well. I asked Charlie a few questions about working with meaning, living with purpose, and what has contributed to her success:
What are some of your recent accomplishments?
“I put together a strong business plan along with 3 Bold Goals addressing both my personal and professional life. I am proud that I have stayed focused on those goals, worked with the team to accomplish critical business-driving actions, and am enjoying my ‘52 To 52’ – 52 new experiences leading up to my 52nd birthday!”
What has contributed to these accomplishments?
“My involvement in Mastermind as well as our monthly accountability journal, my accountability partner, and staying true to my core values. Plus I get a natural high from a sense of meaningful achievement, which also drives me forward.”
What are some of your biggest recent learnings?
“Expecting the unexpected and being able to roll with it! Learning to quiet my inner critic. Having the courage to stretch and trust my own strength.”
How has knowing your purpose impacted you?
“This has been profound for me. With Christi’s encouragement, I looked back and realized I have made major life decisions based on my core values without even realizing it. Now, I intentionally call on my values and purpose when making decisions and as a result, feel less apprehension when heading outside my comfort zone.”
What’s one lesson you’d like to share with others?
“Just one?! 🙂 Believe in yourself and your potential – instead of fake-it-til-you-make-it, FAITH it til you make it. Also, give yourself grace as you grow, expand, and step into your full potential.”
If you viewed this on Instagram, you’ll notice I used sunburst emojis as bullet points – a good representation of Charlie’s persona. I am grateful to know, work with, and be inspired by incredible clients like Charlie who so beautifully bring meaning to work and purpose to life!
Imagine you have an upcoming interview for your dream job, or a meeting with a prospective client who could put your business on the map, or an important presentation that – if done well – could set your highest vision in motion. What would you do in the time leading up to this experience? How would you ensure success and calm your nerves?
If you’re like many of my clients, one word comes to mind: PREPARE.
Yet how often do you ‘wing it’ rather than prepare for your upcoming week? How thoughtfully do you plan for the next seven days – days that could catapult your goals forward, change some lives, and make a meaningful difference in the world?
Every time I post on Instagram about my Weekly Review + Planning Session (which I’ll shorten to R+P for the remainder of this article), I receive a number of questions: How? When? What, exactly, do you do?
Today I will share the basic components of my R+P, something I’ve been doing for so long I can’t remember not doing it. Even if you take pride in flying by the seat of your pants, I encourage you to give the R+P a try. You may be successful now, but with a bit of reflection and thoughtful planning – even just 10-15 minutes’ worth – you can elevate yourself to new heights! You can also conduct a similar session with your assistant, team, or others connected to common goals and priorities.
1. Select The Day
As with most purposeful habits, engaging on a regular basis – ideally at a similar time each day or week – goes a long way toward ensuring you actually follow through. Choose a day you can keep fairly consistent. I typically conduct my R+P session on Sunday evenings; many of my clients choose to close out the work-week with their R+P and do them on Friday afternoons. Block the time (anywhere from 15 to 60 minutes will suffice) in your calendar. Bonus points: use bright, fun colors for this time block!
While the day of the week doesn’t matter as much as the consistency, I do not recommend scheduling your R+P sessions for Monday morning. Not only does Monday morning often tend to bring a high level of busy-ness on its own, it can also feel much like setting your resolutions on January 2 – you start off a bit behind.
2. Gather Your Supplies
Nothing too complex here. Some of my necessities include:
* 5-Point Scan – A one-page document that includes my Vision, Purpose Statement, Guiding Principles, Values, and 3 Bold Goals for the year.
* Success Calendar – This is part of the Purpose Planner system; if you don’t utilize that, a year-at-a-glance calendar with space to plan monthly and quarterly milestones will serve a similar purpose.
* Current Calendar/Planner – One with details for the upcoming week.
* Journals + Pens – I plan/track/dream a great deal in my journal (especially my bullet journal), so I find this useful. If you do something similar on your laptop, turn off notifications or shut down the internet to avoid any unnecessary rabbit holes.
* “Ceremony” Items – Why not make the time a bit special? A fresh cup of coffee or glass of iced tea, a scented candle, colored markers and highlighters…add a bit of splash to your R+P to make it even more enticing.
3. Secure A Quiet Location
Your sunroom, back porch, coffee shop, writing nook, picnic table by the lake…select an area that will give you focused space to think, envision, and plan. Your office may work too, but don’t underestimate the power of a periodic change in scenery for prompting fresh thoughts.
4. Review The Past Week
My coaching clients often send a Coaching Prep Form prior to our meetings, allowing them to recap key actions and results since our previous meeting. Not a week goes by without someone telling me, “Completing this form reminded me of all that I did and even prompted more action!” Review what will best help you grow: Wins you experienced, lessons learned/things you’d do differently next time, gratitude, unexpected highlights, courageous moments.
Look also at where you invested your time. Was 80% of your week spent in meetings, for example? Could some of those meetings be turned into quick phone calls, walkable meetings, or deleted altogether? Whether you suffer from meeting fatigue or other less-than-useful time expenditures, pay attention and make changes where necessary.
5. Plan For Next Week
This could easily be an entire article on its own (future note to self), but a couple of important items:
* Know your priorities, or what Stephen Covey might refer to as ‘big rocks,’ and schedule those first. Don’t leave the most important things to chance or “if you have time.” You won’t, unless you schedule them now.
* Make sure you have dedicated time for 1-3 of your most important goals – or what we call Bold Goals in my world.
* Consider color coding your entries for a quick balance check. If you notice 90% of your week is in blue (work) and only 10% in orange (family, personal time, exercise + hobbies), decide if and how you can amend.
That’s it!
Eisenhower apparently once said, “Plans are useless, but planning is indispensable.” Your week may not (or more likely, will not) go exactly according to plan. But the fact that you have created a plan will do three important things:
1) Provide a level of confidence knowing that you’ve thought through the week ahead;
2) Allow you to see what’s working, what’s not, and what changes will best support your growth; and
3) Calm the chatter in your mind that wants you to worry, prioritize unimportant things, or always feel just a couple of steps behind the starting line.
You will experience greater meaning at work and purpose in life when you take a few moments to create a thoughtful, goal-oriented plan for success – however you define success. When will you conduct your next (or perhaps first) R+P session? Let me know below or on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter – and I’d love to hear how it goes!