Author Archives: Christi Hegstad

From Transition To Transformation

Christi Hegstad November 18th, 2022

Early in my business, when asked the type of clients with whom I work, I realized nearly all of them were in a transition of some sort. I was so excited to have finally found a niche!

Not long after, it dawned on me:

Nearly all of us are in or nearing a transition of some sort. Pretty much all the time.

We’re thinking about a new role, preparing the children to start school, considering a move, approaching retirement.

The snow outside my window reminds me we’re transitioning into a new season. Soon we’ll transition to a new month, then a new year.

Even shifting from work mode to home/personal time is a transition many of us experience daily.

Life, when you think about it, is filled with transition.

I’ve experienced several myself this year, a big one being the ’empty nest.’ For the first time in over two decades, my kiddos all live outside the home they grew up in.

Leading up to this significant life change, I asked several friends about their experience. Responses varied from ‘It’s awesome, you’ll love it!’ to ‘It’s terrible, you’ll hate it!’ and all points in between.

I realized that I wanted to decide how it was going to be for me. Rather than a wait-and-see-and-hope-for-the-best approach, I chose to be intentional about entering this new phase.

Intentionality, in my experience, is key to shifting a transition into a transformation.

If you are in or approaching a change, consider being intentional about it.

Start by asking yourself what you want. If you could wave a magic wand, what would it look like on the other side of your transition?

What would you love to be able to say at that time?

How would you feel?

From that space, make your decisions and act accordingly.

(My coach is always helpful when I’m navigating a transition too, so think about hiring a coach to help you through yours.)

Your ‘next chapter’ may turn out exactly as you envision – or maybe it won’t. But by putting thought into what you want to create and being deliberate about your approach, you’re more likely to turn your transition into a meaningful transformation.

What other steps help you turn a transition into a transformation?

Enroll in the ASPIRE Success Club or join the waiting list for the ASPIRE Bold Goal Academy – we’d love to help you transform your 2023 into one of meaning and purpose! 

5 Top Tips For Achieving Your Goals

Christi Hegstad November 17th, 2022

We’re in the final stretch of 2022. Ready to kick those goals into high gear?

Here are 5 tips to help move you deftly into ‘Achieved!’ status:

 

Brainstorm Many, Implement Few.

Generating a giant list of possible actions is an excellent way to start crafting your plan, in large part because our first idea often isn’t our best idea. After that, however, be selective with which actions you choose to implement. Keep the 80/20 rule in mind!

 

Review Your Vision Daily.

It’s easy to get stuck or derailed by an obstacle when we’re only focused on the current picture. Practice zooming out. I’ve written a brief vision of what I intend to celebrate on December 31 and placed it in the front of my journal so I can see it every day. This helps me make decisions and take actions from where I want to be rather than stuck in today’s obstacle.

 

Assess Your Progress Weekly.

When I coach on priorities (our primary focus for the next ASPIRE Success Club term), I suggest assessing them in terms of a week vs. a day. You may not honor all 5 of your top priorities every day, for instance, but hopefully you do in the span of the week. Same goes for goal actions: Establish and track daily ones, but don’t view them as the be all/end all.

 

Build In Accountability.

Weave accountability into your plan regularly, in a way that serves you best. For me, it’s my scheduled meetings with my coach. For many ASPIRE members, it’s our weekly goal check-ins. Increase your likelihood of following through by having someone to report back to.

 

Remember Why You Started.

You set a goal to run 300 miles this quarter, and at the halfway mark, you’re at 14 miles. Rather than throwing in the towel, revisit the purpose behind your goal. Was it to increase energy? Feel healthy and fit? Then ask how you can still fulfill that purpose even if you don’t reach the goal. I’m not suggesting you give up, but rather that you view your goal purposefully and holistically.

Goals Who You Become
I’ve said it a million times: In the end, goals are less about what we do and more about who we become in the process.

Who do you wish to become? Someone who is…

Focused? Determined? Purposeful?

Decide, act accordingly, and know that I’m cheering you on!

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Shouldn’t It Be Easier By Now?

Christi Hegstad November 16th, 2022

I recently met with a client who has worked in her field for over a decade.

She enjoys the work, her colleagues, and her clients.

“But I have to admit,” she shared, “everything still feels hard. I should be farther along than I am.”

I hear variations of this theme often:

“I’m putting in the effort but not getting anywhere.”

“Everyone but me is moving up. What am I doing wrong?”

“Shouldn’t it be easier by now?”  

 

Considerations

It can certainly be easy to get down on ourselves in situations like these. Colleagues are getting promoted, the business next door is expanding, everyone and their uncle is going viral on TikTok.

Can you relate?

If so, and if you’re ready for a change (in perspective and/or the situation), consider starting with some different questions, such as:

What have you worked through to get here?

You’ve undoubtedly faced challenges along your path – don’t discount them. Maybe you’ve navigated an illness, a relationship issue, a global pandemic, or an unexpected detour. How have you continued to move forward? What have you learned? Have you given yourself credit for your perseverance?

How would you advise your dearest friend?

What would you say to a friend, teammate, or family member who felt stuck or behind and sought your advice? Would you show them compassion and support? How might you use this on yourself?

Says who?

Who says you should be farther along or that you’re not moving fast enough? Is this from a reliable source? Is it stemming from comparison to someone else’s ‘highlight reel’? Any time the word ‘should’ shows up, I take that as a cue to question it.

 

And Maybe… 

I’ll let you in on a little secret:

I’m approaching 20 years in business, and I still often feel like I’m reinventing the wheel.

But here’s something I wrote in a blog earlier this month and remind myself as needed, too:

You’ve never been this age before. You’ve never been in these exact life circumstances before. You’ve never lived in this time before. So if you’re a bit muddled or confused, cut yourself some slack.

Same goes if you’re feeling behind, or stuck, or hosting any number of ‘shoulds.’

Maybe you’re exactly where you need to be for the moment.

Maybe you’re helping exactly who needs you right now.

Maybe your breakthrough is right around the corner.

I’m all for setting goals, continuous growth, and striving for more. And I am also all for celebrating where we are in the present moment, and honoring what it took to get here.

How about you? Are you willing to do the same?

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Critical Thinking 101

Christi Hegstad November 15th, 2022

Early in graduate school, I took a required course that I suspected might be an absolute bore. Instead, it turned out to offer a lesson that extended well beyond academia – one that I continue to use to this day.

The time: 20+ years ago.

The subject: Disciplined inquiry.

Throughout the course, we were essentially challenged to challenge our thinking.

For example, let’s say you read an article. The author has stated their opinion, is making their case, and even includes a citation or two to support their argument.

At first glance, you might think, “Well, they’re citing studies, so it must be legit.”

You might even go a step further and check the footnotes or bibliography, just to make sure they included the references.

You may then accept their argument as accurate, since they apparently have science to back it up.

This class, however, taught us countless ways to dig deeper. We might ask questions such as:

Was it a scientific study – or a privately-dispersed survey?

Who funded the study?

How large was the sample size? How representative are they?

What conclusions did the scientists draw? What limitations to their study did they point out? Did the author of the article address these, too?

Are there other ways the data might be interpreted?

We spent a good deal of time in class playing devil’s advocate with each other and the material, examining bias, and highlighting the importance of looking beyond the ‘sound byte’ to the facts.

Honestly, throughout the semester, I experienced aha moment after aha moment!

And in large part, my time in this class is why, to this day, my fingers won’t allow me to press ‘share’ on an article when I’ve only read the headline.

We don’t have to be research scientists or post-doctoral fellows to apply critical thinking skills. A few ways to start incorporating the practice into our everyday lives:

Pause.

Key advice for so many aspects of life, isn’t it? Take a few breaths before taking an action. And ideally take a few more steps than that before accepting something at face value and/or sharing with others.

Ask a few questions.

The headline might say, “Studies show green vegetables are actually bad for you!” Asking just a couple of questions might lead you to discover, however, that the ‘study’ was a survey funded by a giant in the very-non-green-vegetable industry and sent only to a handful of its own employees, or that the ‘article’ is actually a well-disguised paid advertisement.

Think for yourself first.

With so much noise, it’s crucial that we intentionally consider our own thoughts first. When I finish reading a book, for example, I write my own rating/review before I hop online to see what other people thought of it – I want to capture my own thoughts before being influenced by others. I can appreciate those other opinions, and they may even affect my own thoughts or rating, but only after I’ve clearly thought for myself first.

I took this course long before it became so easy to share information with a quick click of a button on social media. It’s now more important than ever that we use discernment before taking in – and sharing with others – what a headline or sound byte may indicate as fact.

I am an optimistic, positive, and trusting person who believes in the greater good. I am also a critical thinker. These things are not mutually exclusive.

How do you practice critical thinking in your everyday life? Do you believe this is an important skill? Please share your ideas below!

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Start With A Win

Christi Hegstad November 14th, 2022
Looking for a way to engage everyone at your next team meeting – or even your next family dinner?
I’ve got a simple solution you can try.
Start with a win.
Before diving into the meeting topic or agenda, ask each person to share one win they’ve experienced recently.
Personal or professional, large or small, planned or unexpected – it doesn’t matter. Just something that made them feel happy, fulfilled, or proud.
This allows everyone the opportunity to speak at the onset, potentially increasing communication throughout the meeting.
In addition, it sets a positive tone, encourages participants to learn about each other in a different way, and gives everyone a chance to feel heard and celebrated – an invaluable experience in this day and age.
Have fun sharing the joy!

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3 Considerations When You Feel Behind

Christi Hegstad November 13th, 2022

We currently have seven weeks remaining in 2022. This time of year often moves people into one of two directions:

“Time to dig in, work hard, and give it my all!”

or

“Oh well, there’s always next year.”

When you look at your top-priority goal, are you on Team Go-For-It?

Or are you feeling too far behind?

If you’re considering throwing in the towel, ponder these three ideas first:

Your Purpose:

Step back and remember why you set this goal in the first place.

Your Vision:

Place yourself on December 31 and envision what you most want to say at that time.

Your Measures:

Are you actually right on track and just feeling behind compared to something – or someone – else?

Seven weeks is still a good amount of time!

Maybe with one or two bold actions, you can still achieve your goal.

Or maybe with a few small, consistent actions over the next seven weeks, you can still achieve your goal.

Or, maybe you strive for a milestone toward the goal, or adjust your timeline, or partner with a coach to help you define and reach your desired destination.

The ‘next right step’ will look different for each person, and each goal.

Just make sure you decide your next right step with intention, rather than based on assumption or comparison.

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Rekindling Your Enthusiasm

Christi Hegstad November 12th, 2022

Last night I opened a fortune cookie that read:

“The worst bankruptcy in the world is the person who has lost their enthusiasm.”

I’m not sure I’d word it in quite the same way, but I could definitely relate.

How do you rekindle your enthusiasm?

How do you relight your fire?

We all probably go about this differently.

And surely it depends on our situation.

But I sometimes find this combination helpful:

Acknowledging and celebrating how far I’ve come,

and envisioning what could be.

If you’d like to give this a try, start by creating a Celebration of Triumphs – a list of your successes and wins. (You can learn more and even download a worksheet here.)

Then, from that place of celebration, imagine a bright and ideal future. Dream without barriers for this exercise, as if you could truly do anything.

See if that blend of past success and future possibility doesn’t start rekindling your enthusiasm in the here and now!

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Want To Set A Reading Goal In The New Year? Here Are Some Ideas.

Christi Hegstad November 11th, 2022

If you’re an achiever, your mind may be turning to goals and resolutions as we approach a new year.

And if you’re a reader, some of those goals may revolve around books.

Many people immediately generate a number of books they want to read, which can be a fun challenge to fulfill. If you’re looking to read differently, instead of – or in addition to – reading more, here are some considerations to spark your goals:

* Percentage of fiction and nonfiction

* Books about careers, politics, backgrounds, or beliefs that differ from your own

* Translated books or books from other parts of the world

* Biographies, autobiographies, or memoirs of people you admire

* Local or regional authors

* Books by people or about topics you disagree with (reading with an open mind)

* Expansive books of any kind – which I wrote about yesterday

If you’re looking for book recommendations, stay tuned. I’ll soon be sharing my favorites from 2022, as well as my favorite nonfiction reads of all time!

What reading goal(s) will you be setting in the new year?

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Windows, Mirrors, And My 2022 Reading Goals

Christi Hegstad November 10th, 2022

Years ago, I heard books referred to as mirrors and windows. As I understand it:

Mirrors are books that reflect back to us similarities to our own lives. Reading such books may provide further insight to an experience or help us feel less alone.

Windows, on the other hand, are books that give us a view into someone else’s life, someone with experiences different than our own. These books can provide perspective, prompt empathy, and offer a lens into things we may never experience.

I also refer to those windows as ‘expansive books,’ and I have intentionally read a number of them this year.

My 2022 Reading Goal

When a new year rolls around, as we’ll experience again before we know it, many individuals set goals around reading. They may select a certain number of books to read throughout the year, or to increase their nonfiction reading, or to participate in a local book club. All terrific things to focus on!

Since I naturally tend to read about 100 books each year, I don’t necessarily want to increase my overall number. What I did want to do this year, however, was deliberately read more expansive – or window – books.

Much of my reading revolves around personal + professional development, as I love weaving what I learn into my coaching work. I frequently reach for books on topics like purpose, confidence, leadership, productivity, and the like.

But I also want to make sure I am continually learning about experiences, subjects, people, and events in a variety of different arenas, too.

This year, therefore, I set a goal to read several expansive books – books outside those aforementioned topics. I really wanted to take my time with these reads, too – annotating, making notes, and truly expanding my learning.

I’ve focused on nonfiction, however many of these have led to fiction reads on similar or related topics, too. (If you’d like to see a separate blog with some of those titles, let me know!)

This has honestly been one of the most impactful reading goals I’ve ever set!

A Few Of My Expansive Books

A brief overview of some of my expansive reads throughout the year:

Braiding Sweetgrass Kimmerer book

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer

This beautifully-written book kicked off my expansive reading this year, and what an excellent start! Written by an environmental biology professor, mother, and enrolled member of the Citizen Potawatomi Nation, Braiding Sweetgrass is all at once educational, inspiring, and filled with Indigenous wisdom. I read this early in the year and it prompted a string of books for me featuring nature and science writing, both in the nonfiction and fiction realms. I highly recommend the audiobook of this one too, which is narrated by the author.

Hood Feminism Book Kendall

Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall

I’ve read a fair amount on the topic of feminism, but it was the subtitle of this one – Notes From The Women That A Movement Forgot – that drew me in to this book. Kendall discusses how much work we have yet to do when it comes to supporting and expanding rights, opportunities, and equality, particularly with respect to women of color (WOC) and other marginalized people. She addresses this in terms of food insecurity, housing, education, and a host of other topics, including ones we might not immediately think of when we talk about feminism. Very eye-opening, informative, and thought-provoking.

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Disability Visibility by Alice Wong (editor)

I first learned of this book from Kendra Winchester, a ‘booktuber’ (someone posting bookish content on YouTube) and host of the Reading Women podcast, who shares a wide array of diverse and impactful reads. Disability Visibility is a powerful collection of essays written by people who live with disabilities (which the book states is one in five people in the U.S.), in which they share their stories, experiences, advocacy work, and more. I appreciated so much in this book, such as the reminder that many people live with disabilities that aren’t always visible to someone else. I initially borrowed this book from the library and ultimately purchased my own copy since I took so many notes.

H Is for Hawk Macdonald book

H Is For Hawk by Helen Macdonald

Throughout the year, I’ve read a few books that I find difficult to categorize into a particular genre; they are part-memoir, part-nature writing, part-exploration into a deep emotion such as grief. H Is For Hawk was one of the first I picked up, and it both intrigued and perplexed me, stretching me out of my ‘reading comfort zone’ in a variety of ways. The story revolves around the author’s experience training a goshawk – something that has never crossed my mind to do and so naturally opened my eyes in all sorts of new ways. I particularly appreciated how she wove this unique experience with the grief she was processing following the death of her father.

Book Anti-Racist Jewell

This Book Is Anti-Racist by Tiffany Jewell

Although written for a younger audience, I found this colorful and engaging book very enlightening as an adult, too. Jewell does a terrific job describing the difference between anti-racism and non-racism, also shedding light on the importance of being actively anti-racist in order to continue to prompt societal change. I particularly appreciated the author’s explanation around calling people out and calling people in; I haven’t heard it described in this way before and thought the considerations around this were important. I was also glad to see the book include a variety of anti-racism actions we as readers can take.

Not About Burqa book Khan

It’s Not About The Burqa by Mariam Khan (editor)

This collection of essays was written by a wide variety of contributors, all focusing primarily on what it’s like to live as a Muslim woman in the West today. I enjoyed learning from the broad range of voices gathered in this collection, as they addressed numerous topics including faith, racism, identity, mental health, feminism, and more. Some of the essays shared about customs and history I was unfamiliar with, some made me nod in recognition, some broke my heart; all of them taught me, enlightened me, and broadened my understanding.

Good Talk book Jacob

Good Talk by Mira Jacob

I’ve never read a graphic memoir before, so the structure of this book was expansive for me in and of itself. Jacob, who is East Indian and whose husband is Jewish, answers questions from her six-year-old son throughout the book; they discuss topics such as race, politics, family relationships, communication, and more in such an engaging way. I found the blend of artwork with the conversational style to offer a unique kind of poignancy. Good Talk is also a great example of how even a fairly brief reading experience (I read this in two sittings) can open your eyes and forever change your perspective.

Expansive Books 2022 Final

Going Forward

I found myself using similar words as I reflected on these books: Eye-opening. Thought-provoking. Important. These are all qualities I intend to continue seeking out in my reading life!

I definitely plan to continue focusing more and more on expansive reading, as well as bringing it into discussions with the ASPIRE Success Club and other programs I facilitate. In addition, I think I may choose a specific topic or type of book for next year – or perhaps for each quarter of the next year – on which to focus. A few ideas that come to mind include social justice, sustainability, literacy, Indigenous authors, and translated works.

To sum it up, I have absolutely loved this goal!

Please share your thoughts, book recommendations, and titles that might appear on your own expansive reading list! I’d also love to hear any reading goals you have set or are considering for the future.

Happy expansive reading!

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10 Things To Declutter For Your Professional Development

Christi Hegstad November 9th, 2022

I recently enjoyed a massive decluttering session.

And when I say enjoyed, I mean it! I felt lighter afterwards than I had in weeks.

Now, I know decluttering isn’t everyone’s favorite thing. If the thought of it doesn’t light you up, that’s ok.

I do, however, still encourage you to consider areas that might feel good to clean up before the new year – particularly when it comes to your professional development.

Ten places you might consider decluttering, cleaning up, and/or updating:

* Unused apps or icons on your digital devices

* To-do lists (prioritize, delegate, delete unnecessary tasks, etc)

* Resume or CV

* Email lists you subscribe to but don’t read

* Inactive subscribers to your own email list

* In-box (physical and/or digital)

* Outdated materials or rough drafts of completed projects

* Social media (profile info, connections, old posts, even deciding if you want to remain on the platform)

* Excess items on your desk

* Papers and file cabinets

Where else might you declutter to enhance your office, mental clarity, and professional development?

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