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Looking Back To Plan Ahead

Christi Hegstad August 28th, 2024

We’re approaching September and, along with it, the sprint to the end of the year. The kids have just started school, but blink twice and we’ll be knee-deep in holiday prep and new year planning!

And if you are a business owner, salesperson, leader, or have set annual goals, you may be feeling the pressure to make a lot of magic happen in the next few months.

How can you do this successfully and purposefully?

Especially if you’re already feeling behind?

We could dive into action planning, time management, and other achievement-oriented strategies, but let’s take a step back for a moment first. Rather than looking ahead at all you need to do between now and December 31, start by looking back.

Here’s what I mean:

The Power Of Reflection

Reflection can take place in myriad ways, some more beneficial than others. Today, I encourage you to reflect, with intention, in two specific ways.

First, look back at the past year, paying special attention to the following questions:

* What’s worked well that you can build on?

* What has not worked as expected and what have you learned?

* What do you want more of in the next four months?

* What do you need to let go of? (Note this might include anything from a goal set back in January that no longer applies, to a negative story you’re repeating to yourself regarding a past mistake.)

* What are your highlight moments?

Much of this may come from the period of January until now, but consider looking back from 4th quarter of last year, too. This may provide you with information specific to the upcoming season.

Second, use your imagination and pretend it’s December 31 – then look back over the last four months. Not the entire year – just September to December – and ask yourself some different questions, such as:

* What, specifically, are you celebrating?

* What did you do differently in the last four months of the year, and what results did you experience?

* What 2-3 things did you hold as top priority throughout this time? How did you do that even with other tasks and responsibilities?

* What lessons did you learn that you want to take forward into the new year?

* What word would you use to describe these past four months – or perhaps to describe you, specifically, in these past four months?

Plan Forward, With Intention

Transformations and turnarounds can happen at any time – especially if we are intentional about creating them rather than merely floating along with circumstance.

I hope these two reflection points – looking back from now, and looking back from December 31 – bring you a new perspective and a boost of motivation for the season ahead. And if I can be of service during this time, contact me about coaching or consider enrolling in this upcoming home study course!

Happy reflective planning!

Are You A Meaningful Achiever?

Christi Hegstad May 22nd, 2024

For years, I referred to myself as an overachiever. I always aimed for the A in school – and if I could do extra credit for the A+? Sign me up!

A version of this extended into adulthood, too. If there was a bar to jump over, I didn’t want to just jump over it – I wanted it raised to a level no one else had yet jumped, and I then wanted to leap over it with at least six inches of clearance.

Above and beyond.

Go big or go home.

The time came, however, when trying to give 110% to 110 different activities led to a big question:

What is it all for? *Why* am I giving this (whatever ‘this’ was at the moment) my all?

And I realized that while I wanted to achieve, I didn’t want the harried, frazzled, spinning-my-wheels feelings that often accompanied it. I wanted to aim high and set bold goals and exceed my own expectations, but I didn’t want to feel so scattered and exhausted by it all.

Thus came the phrase that has defined me and most of my clients ever since:

Meaningful Achiever.

Are you a Meaningful Achiever, too?

You Might Be A Meaningful Achiever If…

Below you’ll find a few characteristics I’ve observed in Meaningful Achievers over the years. See if you relate to any of these:

* You want to achieve goals, complete projects, and set milestones to stretch you. In fact, you may not feel fully ‘yourself’ if you’re not moving toward a goal of some kind.

* You find great satisfaction in checking things off your list. You may even add items to your list at the end of the day just to check them off.

* You want to know that what you’re doing makes a difference – to you, your family, your team, and/or beyond.

* And amidst all this, you also want to feel healthy, rested, purposeful, and honoring what matters most to you.

If any of this resonates, you might very well be a Meaningful Achiever, too.

From Overachieving To *Meaningfully* Achieving

On my ‘About’ page, the description of me includes overachiever – with the ‘over’ crossed out, just like that. I no longer want to overachieve, overextend myself, overdo things to the point of exhaustion and burnout.

Rather, I want to be intentional about choosing what truly matters, honor the ‘why’ behind it, then give it my all – in meaningful, purposeful ways. I still aim for excellence (that A+, so to speak) but not in a million different directions and not without knowing why.

One of my longtime favorite quotes comes from Rabbi Harold Kushner in his book, Living A Life That Matters:

Burnout results not from hard work – people are capable of working very hard – but from a sense of futility, the fear that all the hard work isn’t making a difference.

That book was published over 20 years ago, and I believe the sentiment still holds true.

If you’re feeling stretched too thin, on the verge of burnout, or wondering why you’re working so hard, consider taking a step back and reassessing. Start by asking yourself a few questions, such as:

Of all your roles and responsibilities, which ones matter most to you at this time in your life?

On the flip side, which ones may need to go on the back-burner for a while?

What’s your why – the purpose – behind each of those top priority roles you’ve identified?

I can tell you, from my own experience as well as many coaching clients over the years, achievement feels so much more fulfilling when it’s purposeful, intentional, and honoring your deepest values and your highest vision.

Try on the ‘Meaningful Achiever’ title for a while and see how it fits. If you’re achieving at your highest potential while feeling purposeful and fulfilled, keep it up! And if you’re not quite there, I am here to help – contact me and let’s chat about coaching.

You can earn the A+, clear the high jump bar, and achieve bold + difference-making goals where it matters most – all while keeping meaning and purpose at the forefront. Welcome to meaningful achievement! It’s a delightful place, and I’m happy you’re here.

5 Coaching FAQs (And My Responses)

Christi Hegstad May 13th, 2024

“John F. Kennedy once said, ‘The only reason to give a speech is to change the world.’ It’s actually the only reason to have a powerful conversation with anyone. Fearless coaching means every time you coach, you change the world.” 

~ Chandler & Litvin

In order to earn my Ph.D. in human resource development, I attended school for about 100 years (give or take 🙂 ). So why, a few years after that, would I head back to the classroom?

COACHING is why.

I first learned of coaching while writing my dissertation. As I interviewed companies about their mentoring programs, I kept hearing snippets about coaching as well. The topic was new to me, but a seed was definitely planted.

Then, a couple of years into my professional development business, I was drawn to coaching as a way to bridge the gap between the trainings I offered and the ongoing, forward-moving growth many of my students were seeking.

From Day 1 of my coach training, I felt like I had come home. I knew with 100% certainty that coaching filled that missing link for me.

Fast-forward more than a decade and I still feel that way! I’ve intentionally evolved my business to focus mostly on coaching and have never looked back. If you’ve thought about hiring a coach, you may have many questions circling your mind. Here are five that I am often asked from potential clients:

1. I feel like I should be able to figure things out on my own. Does hiring a coach signify weakness?

The exact opposite is true, actually. Look at the best athletes, performers, and business leaders – they have coaches. A quick online search will show you how valuable coaching has been to people like Bill Gates and former Google CEO Eric Schmidt, for example.

Masters of their craft do not get there alone, nor do they presume to know everything; we all benefit from the objectivity, resources, perspective, experience, and even ‘tough love’ that coaches provide. I am successful as a coach when my clients succeed, and there’s nothing quite like having someone 100% invested in your success!

2. What are the best qualities to look for in a coach?

Everyone is different, and no one-size-fits-all criteria exist. I do, however, encourage you to ask a couple of important questions:

What is their experience? Don’t be afraid to ask your potential coach as many questions as you need to feel confident they are right for you. How long have they been coaching? Have they coached people with similar goals and/or challenges as you? Can they give examples of outcomes (protecting confidentiality, of course)? Coaching is a significant investment of time, money, and energy. Ask whatever helps you make a strong decision.

What is their training? The International Coach Federation (ICF) serves as the guiding professional association in coaching, and I suggest working with an ICF-credentialed coach who has attended an accredited coach training program for a number of reasons: ICF-credentialed coaches are bound by high ethical guidelines, have been trained extensively in order to obtain certification (including having their coaching critiqued and working with mentor coaches), and have rigorous continuing education requirements so you can trust that they are always growing and advancing their skills as well.

How do you feel? It may sound unscientific, but ultimately a strong rapport plays a key role, so listen to your intuition. As this point in my coaching career I can typically tell within a few minutes of conversation whether or not a potential client and I will work well together, and I am happy to refer when that rapport is not there or their needs fall outside my areas of expertise.

3. How do I know if I actually need a coach?

Aside from my belief that pretty much everyone (including coaches!) can benefit from a coach, give some thought to what you want to gain from coaching. Do you have an idea, goal, or dream that you keep putting off and want someone to hold you accountable? Do you feel stuck in some aspect of your work or life and want to experience a breakthrough? Do you need to build your mindset, strengthen your confidence, clarify your vision for the future, or develop your skills in order to reach your next pinnacle of success? Many of my clients have obtained a level of leadership where they now need an independent, objective thought partner to bounce ideas off of, brainstorm solutions, and discuss best practices. Does that sound like you?

Whether you have no clue what steps to take, know what to do but aren’t doing it, or feel at the top of your game and want to maintain that, coaching can help.

4. Coaching is a big investment. How do I know it’s worth it?

Search the literature and you’ll find numerous studies demonstrating the consistently high return on investment with coaching. Typically when I’m asked this question, however, it’s not so much the general success rate people are looking for as it is, “How will I know coaching will help me (or my employee)?”

As part of my response, I return the question to my potential clients, because that’s often where their best insights will come from. For example, many clients enroll in a 6-month coaching program with me, so I might ask: Six months from now, what will make you look back and say, ‘Yes, coaching was definitely worth it!’? What will be different then compared to now? What is it costing you to not solve this problem or to not move this goal forward?

Ask yourself similar questions and I bet you’ll sense its worth.

Coaching definitely is an investment in yourself, your growth, your potential. Value yourself and the ‘you’ you’d like to become, and hire the highest quality coach you possibly can. I’ve written checks to my coaches that have made me gasp and, though it can be frightening to invest in oneself so significantly, I have never regretted it.

5. Am I ready for coaching?

I have a friend who routinely cleans her house the day before the housekeeper she hired comes. When I asked her why, she said she doesn’t want the housekeeper to see the ‘true’ mess. Can you relate?

As a certified coach, I am perfectly o.k. seeing things as they are – seeing you as you are. No judgment, no comparison.

As long as you are open to growth, transformation, and new ways of operating, you are likely ready for coaching. You don’t have to have everything figured out or all your ducks in a row before you hire a coach. Instead, you can enjoy that as part of the coaching process!

I agree with Chandler & Litvin’s quote that I opened this article with: Coaching changes individuals, organizations, communities, and the world, and I am so honored to walk with my clients and to be a part of this profession. Coaches, thank you for the important work you do in the world. Clients, thank you for your commitment to growth and striving to be the highest, most purposeful version of yourselves that you possibly can – which also changes the world.

Thinking about working with a coach? Contact me to schedule your Discovery Session and we can explore possibilities!

Happy International Coaching Week!

** A version of this article originally published on this site in 2017. **

Losing Purpose?

Christi Hegstad May 1st, 2024

I recently came across the draft of a blog I had started writing a couple of years ago. Here’s how it began:

The past year has been a bit … different.

My youngest kiddo graduated, and all three of my lovely children are now on their own and making their difference in the world. My role as Mom has changed shape.

My business turned 20, and in the midst of deep assessment I’ve realized there are aspects I’m ready to build up more and others I’m ready to let go. My professional roles are taking on some new forms.

After decades of volunteering as homeroom mom and team parent and scout leader and school committee member, I am now serving in different ways. My role as volunteer has evolved.

Even my role on the internet has changed, as I’ve stepped away from most social media for the better part of the past year or two.

I sometimes feel like I’m in a canoe in the middle of a giant lake, happy and grateful and also not always 100% certain of my bearings.

Do you feel this way sometimes, too?

Whether we’re in the midst of numerous changing roles, or just one significant one, we can feel like we’ve lost our way – or maybe even wonder if we’ve lost our purpose. Sheesh, sometimes it can feel that way on a random Tuesday afternoon!

But here’s the good news: Our purpose is not dependent on any particular role. Just like it’s not dependent on our job title or age or bank account or how many items we’ve checked off of our to-do list.

Purpose is, thankfully, much more encompassing than that. And yet uniquely specific to each of us.

If you’ve worked with me, you may have heard me describe our core values and purpose like a lighthouse:

A lighthouse is always there, shining for us. Storms or fog or wild winds might make it difficult to see at times, but it’s still there – true as ever.

The same goes for our purpose. We may veer from it periodically, but it’s there for us to check back in with at any time.

We may, at times, lose sight of our purpose, but I don’t believe we ever actually lose our purpose – and our purpose never loses us.

Whew!

So even though we may sometimes feel like we’re in a small canoe in a giant lake, wondering which direction to steer, or paddling furiously against the flow, or doing all we can to hang on while the waves toss our little boat around, we can trust that our lighthouse is there, shining, waiting for us to see it again.

And that it will guide us back home.

If you’re in the midst of transition, asking questions like ‘Who am I now?’ and ‘What’s next for me?’, check in with your purpose.

Reconnect with your core values.

Remember who and how you wish to be in the world, the difference you want to make.

(And if you want help uncovering your purpose and writing it in a clear and succinct statement, please contact me about coaching.)

Above all, remember this, which I believe with every fiber of my being:

You are filled with purpose. You are here for a purpose. And you are making a purposeful difference in this world, whether you realize it or not.

Thank you for being here, and for being you!

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12 Ideas For Reading + Enjoying Nonfiction Books!

Christi Hegstad April 10th, 2024

While chatting with a friend, our conversation – unsurprisingly – veered toward books. She looked at all the page flags in my most recent read, listened as I gushed excitedly about my current book, and realized that I had been to multiple bookstores and libraries (note the plural) in the past week.

“You are such a nerd!” she (lovingly) said.

Believe me, this is not the first time I’ve been called a nerd. I am a proud book nerd, word nerd, nerd in general. It’s even declared in the About page of my website! I wear this label with delight.

In addition to frequently being called a nerd, I am also frequently asked how I read so much – particularly nonfiction. I tend to read about 100 books a year, and while I haven’t crunched the numbers, I suspect about 40% of them are nonfiction. I’m starting off this year with more nonfiction, however: Of the 26 books I’ve read so far, 15 have been nonfiction, with several five-star reads among them (hooray!).

If you’d like to weave more nonfiction into your life, I’ve generated a dozen ideas to help, along with some book suggestions as well. Let’s see if one of these resonates with you!

1. Think about your why. 

If you’re familiar with me or my work, this first idea will come as no surprise – I suggest considering the purpose behind nearly any endeavor or action. In terms of reading, when you think about why you’re picking up a particular book, it can help you engage with it more fully as well as hopefully gain what you need from it. 

Whether you’re reading to learn something new, to advance in your work, to gain tips for organizing your kitchen, or to feel inspired, reflecting on this in advance can help you read through that lens.

2. Choose what you love.

What lights you up? If you select a nonfiction book that matches an interest, passion, or goal, you may find yourself picking it up more easily and frequently. 

A couple years ago I set a mileage goal for walking/running. Often while out on the trail, I would listen to audiobooks like The Joy of Movement by Kelly McGonigal or Let Your Mind Run by Deena Kastor and Michelle Hamilton. Not only did this make my miles super enjoyable, I often went further than planned simply so I could continue listening!

3. Explore something new.

What’s a topic you know very little about? What niche subject intrigues you? Reading about something brand new to you, or of which you have little background knowledge, can be a fun exploration into nonfiction. I am currently reading The Dictionary People by Sarah Ogilvie and find it fascinating, in part because I’ve never really thought deeply about how the Oxford English Dictionary came to fruition – and now I am learning from an expert! 

Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know, and finding out can be a thrill.

4. Discuss the book with others.

This is why Your Best Self and many other book clubs exist: to bring a community of people together to chat about what we’re reading and learning. One of my favorite aspects of a group conversation is discovering how everyone picks up on different things from the same text. We all have unique life experiences, so different highlights and takeaways will stand out for each of us.

In addition to the book club environment, finding a reading partner can be another way to enjoy a nonfiction pick. Maybe you and a friend decide to read a chapter a week and check in with each other via text or over coffee every Friday. This can add richness to the experience and keep you motivated, too.

5. Look at the reference section, or back cover blurbs, of a book you enjoyed.

Well-researched nonfiction will typically include a list of other books, articles, and resources in the back. If you finish one book and want more, turn to the references and see what stands out for you. Years ago, I saw the book Mindset by Carol Dweck cited so frequently that I simply had to read it; it is now one of my all-time favorite nonfiction books!

Our second quarter pick for Your Best Self book club is Slow Productivity by Cal Newport, which has about a dozen pages of reference notes in the back to prompt further reading. The back cover can also be a source for finding authors you enjoy; Slow Productivity includes blurbs by Oliver Burkeman, Johann Hari, and others, for example.

6. Try different formats.

If you’ve tried nonfiction in print form before and haven’t felt satisfied, consider trying it on audio, or vice versa. Shaking up the method of reading can change the entire experience.

In addition to experimenting between print, audio, and ebook, consider different writing formats as well. A few years ago I read Good Talk by Mira Jacob; prior to that, I don’t believe I had ever read a graphic memoir. It was such a unique way to read someone’s life experience!

7. Look into the fiction authors you love.

You might be surprised to discover that some of your favorite fiction writers have also published memoirs, essay collections, or other nonfiction works as well. This can provide an excellent starting point for nonfiction, since you’ve already enjoyed something by the writer.

Years ago, after reading excellent novels by Barbara Kingsolver, I found myself equally engrossed in her memoir, Animal, Vegetable, Miracle. Likewise, last year – I believe for the first time ever – I had an author on both my top ten fiction and nonfiction lists of the year! (If you’re curious, it was Ann Patchett, and I enjoyed both These Precious Days [nonfiction] and Tom Lake [fiction] in the same year.)

8. Pick an essay collection or anthology.

Collections are a wonderful entry into nonfiction for a number of reasons: You might more easily dip in and out of them; they are often perfect for dividing into consistent reading experiences, such as one essay per day or week; they can introduce you to a variety of authors and/or perspectives within a particular topic of interest.

In recent years I’ve read some wonderful collections that also taught me a great deal. Two that stand out in my mind are Disability Visibility, edited by Alice Wong, and It’s Not About The Burqa, edited by Mariam Khan.

9. Designate certain times for nonfiction.

I know a number of people, myself included, who choose an inspirational text to read while sipping their morning beverage. A few pages each morning can start your day off on a positive note, plus over time those few pages a day equal an entire book completed.

I typically have a fiction and a nonfiction book going at any given time, and I will often read the nonfiction during pockets of availability throughout the workday (over lunch or while waiting for an appointment, for instance) and then savor some fiction in the evening or before bed. It helps me keep both books moving forward but can also prevent me from spending any precious reading time wondering what to read!

10. Create your own ‘curriculum’ or project.

What topic would you love to expand your learning around? Try curating a list of book possibilities, perhaps with the help of a bookseller and/or librarian, and setting up your own private learning curriculum. Depending on how you like to plan, you might even structure it like a syllabus with timelines and so on. (If that makes you cringe, though, no problem – you might prefer having a selection of themed books that you can move back and forth between.)

There are a number of project-style books that could provide inspiration in this regard, too. Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project comes to mind, as does Shonda Rhimes’ Year of Yes

11. Read about people you admire.

Memoirs, autobiographies, and biographies can all provide insight into the lives of people you admire. Historical figures, present-day leaders, business owners, actors, scientists, comedians, activists … the list of possibilities goes on. 

Make a list of people from or about whom you’d love to learn more, or simply search through a list of memoirs and see which one sounds intriguing. Audiobook memoirs are often narrated by the author, which can add a bit of extra impact to the reading experience. 

12. Let yourself be surprised.

While putting thought and intention into your nonfiction reading choices can provide excellent value, allow yourself to be swept away by something that – for whatever reason, or perhaps for seemingly no reason whatsoever – just piques your interest. Sometimes entering a book with no expectations can lead to a remarkable read!

I have found this to be true many times over. Two years ago, I heard about Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer and, although I knew very little about it, I decided to pick it up. Spoiler alert: it showed up on my top ten list later that year! I currently have another of her books, Gathering Moss, on hold and am hopeful for a similar experience.

I hope this sparks ideas for you as you venture into, or further into, the world of nonfiction! What other ideas would you add? And what nonfiction book stands out in your mind? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Reading Wrap-Up – March 2024!

Christi Hegstad April 3rd, 2024

For a book lover, little compares to the feeling of being fully engrossed in a book: Those experiences when you excitedly look for pockets of time throughout the day to pick the book up, stay up past your bedtime reading, and want to reread it as soon as you turn the final page.

To experience that three times in one month felt absolutely magical!

After some bookish ups and downs in February, March truly delivered. I read 12 books, 8 of which were nonfiction, and I rated nearly all of them 4 or 5 stars. A true thrill for a book nerd!

Trying to choose my favorite nonfiction of the month actually resulted in a three-way tie:

The Perfectionist’s Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

How To Walk Into A Room by Emily P. Freeman

Slow Productivity by Cal Newport

I plan to share stand-alone reviews for each of these, and I have touched on them briefly on Instagram, so I won’t go into detail here. In addition, I’ll be facilitating group discussions on all three of these in the months to come, so stay tuned for details to join in!

What book has inspired, informed, and/or drawn you in lately? Please share!

5 Ways To Put Your Purpose Into Action

Christi Hegstad March 27th, 2024

Last night I had the distinct pleasure of hearing dozens of community leaders and difference-makers share their personal Purpose Statements with all of us in the room. I’ve helped facilitate the Community Connect program through Lead DSM for nine years now, and this unique graduation ceremony never gets old!

I truly believe one of the most significant ways we can change our world and live to our highest potential is by clarifying, and honoring, our individual purposes. In that spirit, and in celebration of our Community Connect graduates, I thought I’d share 5 practical ways you can intentionally put your Purpose Statement into action, starting today!

Filter Your Decisions.

Over the years, I’ve had clients share how their Purpose Statement helped them decide on everything from career paths to philanthropy to family activities to how to spend their leisure time. Your Purpose Statement can serve as a powerful lens through which you can filter myriad choices that come your way.

‘Right The Ship.’

If you’re feeling ‘off’ in a situation, it can often be connected to your core values not being honored. When you are clear on your values and purpose, you can more easily pinpoint what’s off and take the appropriate action.

Live Authentically + Wholeheartedly.

One cool aspect of your Purpose Statement is that it isn’t specific to a particular role or life category; your purpose applies whether you are at home, at work, volunteering, traveling abroad, or in the checkout line at the grocery store. Knowing and honoring who you are at your core can help you live more true to yourself in all situations.

Pre-Screen Your Actions.

Part of my Purpose Statement is to ‘inspire positive action.’ Before I post on Instagram, hit ‘publish’ on a blog, or say ‘yes’ to an activity, I like to pause and ask myself, ‘Does this have the potential to inspire positive action?’ If not, I tend to rethink whether or not this is truly an action I want to take.

Make Your Difference.

When you see where your purpose overlaps with the world’s – or your corner of the world’s – needs, that’s where the magic happens! There’s nothing quite like making a difference in such an aligned, intentional, purposeful way.

If you’ve uncovered and written your Purpose Statement, I hope this refresher helps. If you haven’t yet clarified your purpose and would like to, we can typically do this within three coaching sessions – email me and I’ll be happy to share more details.

Here’s to making your meaningful, purposeful difference! The world is better for it – and for having you in it.

Hosting Your Own ‘Executive Session’

Christi Hegstad March 20th, 2024

Between back-to-back meetings, reacting to in-the-moment needs, handling the endless stream of emails, and navigating all the unexpected events in any given day, when do you find time for visioning, strategizing, or moving high-level projects forward?

For many, such time feels like a far-off luxury.

For others, such visionary work occurs once a year at a corporate offsite or leadership retreat.

If you spend the entire day ‘putting out fires,’ you may not even get to your own actual work until after hours – leaving the idea of visionary, strategic, or high-level project initiatives in the ‘that sure would be nice’ realm of someday.

Yet as a leader and difference-maker, crafting a compelling vision and moving the needle on long-term, high-level pursuits is likely expected of you.

And as an achiever, these are probably areas on which you’d love to spend more time.

So far, we haven’t discovered a way to increase the number of hours in a day. So what can we do?

Enter what I call Executive Sessions.

Essentially, an Executive Session is a period of time routinely blocked on your calendar purely for visioning, planning, strategizing, and the like. A time during which you close your door (or go elsewhere), turn off notifications, and immerse yourself in some deep work.

You can choose how often and for how long. A weekly one-hour Executive Session can work wonders, but if you’re starting from zero, even an hour a month can prove fulfilling.

I’ve coached a number of clients to weave Executive Sessions into their routines. They’ve used this valuable time for all manner of high-level projects, from work toward an award or distinction, to creating systems to more efficiently support their teams, to dreaming about a change they’d love to make and then actually setting it in motion with subsequent sessions.

The possibilities here are endless, and the benefits are, too!

A few suggestions as you consider adopting Executive Sessions into your calendar:

* Choose a time that seems realistic. Monday morning may already be too hectic, but what about an hour on Friday afternoon?

* Like with Results-Oriented Time Blocking, decide in advance how you will spend it – and honor it as you would a doctor’s appointment.

* Although you’ll likely be tempted, do not use this time to catch up on emails or other administrative tasks. This high-level hour is for high-level work.

* Consider ways to be held accountable to this time when other things want to creep in and overtake it. I’ve had coaching clients commit to sending me a quick message following their Executive Session; knowing that someone else is waiting to hear about it can serve as a helpful motivator.

You may look at your calendar and immediately deem this idea impossible. But consider it a challenge: What changes could you implement to allow an Executive Session within the next 60 days? What recurring monthly meeting is coming to an end and could now be replaced with this session? How would you feel at the end of a 3-hour stretch focusing solely on a high-importance, game-changing project?

In the words attributed to Nelson Mandela, “It always seems impossible until it is done.” And once it is done, I bet you’ll experience such profound benefits that you will want – and will find ways – to make it part of your routine!

Need Motivation? Try A Goal Immersion

Christi Hegstad March 13th, 2024

How many times have you reached the end of the year only to have no recollection what goals you set twelve months prior?

Or maybe you’re struggling to remember them even now, three months in!

If you tend to have a ‘set it and forget it’ relationship with your goals, or if you find your motivation waning over time, consider what I refer to as a goal immersion.

For example, let’s say you set a goal to run a half-marathon. You craft your training plan and start the year strong, but your drive begins to fade a few weeks later.

First and foremost, I recommend reconnecting with your WHY. What’s the purpose behind your goal? What prompted you to set it in the first place?

If you still consider it a purposeful goal worthy of continuing, consider how you might surround yourself in motivation. In this example, you could:

* Subscribe to a running magazine and have a visual prompt every month. (Or make a monthly date with your local library for the same purpose.)

* Follow a running-focused podcast.

* Set motivating milestones and rewards, such as obtaining new running shorts when you complete a certain number of miles without stopping.

* Join a nearby running club.

* Incorporate a running check-in into your Weekly R+P.

* Periodically watch an interview with a runner on YouTube.

* Hang a few running-related photos around your home, office, or exercise equipment.

When I set a goal like this in the past, I also found it motivating to listen to related audiobooks while out on the trails. Kelly McGonigal’s The Joy of Movement and Deena Kastor’s Let Your Mind Run are two such books that come to mind!

You can implement this strategy on more loosely-defined goals, too. Want to engage in a more positive mindset, for instance? How might you begin fueling yourself with positivity?

Immersing yourself in the goal in a variety of ways can help keep it present, interesting, and varied. Consider all five senses as you ponder different ways to take in your goal.

One caveat here: Goal immersion doesn’t mean ‘all goal, all the time.’ You don’t want to overwhelm or overload yourself, nor will it benefit you to put on blinders to anything but your goal. You’re simply aiming to keep your goal present and inspired so you can maintain your progress.

How might you experiment with a bit of goal immersion this month?

My 3-Point Checklist For Purposeful Goals

Christi Hegstad March 6th, 2024

If you struggle at all with goals, you are definitely not alone.

Maybe you set them but they feel arbitrary.

Maybe they seem like the ‘right’ goals but you feel unmotivated by them.

Or maybe you set them and forget them.

As we approach the start of a new quarter, I thought I’d do my part to bring an element of purpose into your goal-setting process. I’m sharing three criteria that I encourage you to keep at the forefront when setting your goals.

These criteria may not show up on many of the traditional goal-setting lists, but when it comes to meaningful achievement, I find them incredibly important.

First, is your goal MEANINGFUL?

Why does this goal matter to you? Why is it important? What will be different as a result of achieving the goal?

Answers to questions like these will help ensure your goal is truly meaningful for you, not just an expectation or a ‘should.’ And getting clear on the purpose behind your goal is, in my opinion, the number one motivational tool in your tool kit!

Running your goal through the lens of your core values can also help solidify its meaningfulness.

Second, is your goal POSITIVELY IMPACTFUL?

When you look at the immediate effects of your goal, as well as the longer-term ripple effects, what kind of difference might it make? And is that difference a positive, purposeful one?

You may think your goal to run a marathon is all for you, for example, but what about the people you inspire along the way? The people who watch you from a distance and think, ‘Maybe I could do that, too’? The people who benefit from coaching you, partnering with you, training with you, running alongside you, and/or cheering you on?

Think in layers when you consider this element: You, your family, friends, coworkers, community, and the world at large, for starters. Never underestimate the power of a positively impactful goal!

Third, are you EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED to your goal in some way?

I used to encourage clients and workshop participants to make sure their goal excited them in some way. Over the years, however, I have come to learn that many of our goals – some of my own included – are designed to bring a sense of calm, peacefulness, balance, or contentment. The ‘excitement factor’ may not always fit.

I do believe, however, that some form of emotional connection will help you get started as well as sustain your motivation along the way.

I often discern it this way: How will I feel once I’ve achieved this goal?

And as an immediate followup question: How can I start feeling that today?

It may sound a little woo-woo, but the emotion behind your goal can serve as a powerful, practical function when you encounter obstacles along the way.

Your goal can still include other criteria, of course, such as being specific and measurable. I encourage you to consider incorporating the above three factors as well. The combination can lead to practical, purposeful achievement – the kind that can truly make a difference!

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