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Coming Out Of Hiding

Christi Hegstad April 13th, 2015

“There’s risk involved in putting our true self out into the world. But I believe there’s even more risk in hiding yourself and your gifts from the world.”
Brene Brown

Coaching Tip for the Week:


I agree 100% with the above quote. Make that 200%.



So much can stand in our way of putting our true selves out there: fear, doubt, fragile self-esteem, uncertainty. We have lots of reasons to hide.



But we have more reasons to honor our full potential, to work with purpose, to live like we mean it.



Not too long ago, I was “hiding out” in a few significant ways, putting up a shield of protection. My summer 42 Days Of Yes activity began to knock down some of the walls I had built up, and putting this quest in “project status” helped me move from “I should do something about this” to “I am doing something – and here’s the time frame.”   


(Hint: If the word “should” appears in your goals at all, it’s time to revisit!)

What I’ve learned: Your family, your work, your world wants you to be you. Honestly, authentically, vulnerably YOU. When you try to cover up, sugarcoat, hide out, or imitate someone else, we all suffer. 

We want to experience your greatness. 

In fact, we need to. 



This week, live like you mean it. Be honest with yourself about what prevents you from doing so. Concern over what others will think? Fear of failure? Wondering how you will compare? Put your self-awareness and self-care in project status this week, then when you’re at work, at home, and in every interaction, BE YOU.

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Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Uncommon Leadership: Lessons From Lady Gaga

Christi Hegstad April 8th, 2015

This article was originally published on the Des Moines Business Record blog.

When you think of Lady Gaga, what comes to mind? Probably her musical talent (six Grammy awards so far), perhaps her outrageous wardrobe (meat dress, anyone?), maybe her unusual antics (the infamous awards show entrance in a giant egg). Only 28 years old and she has certainly made a name for herself.

But as Jackie Huba outlines in her book,Monster Loyalty: How Lady Gaga Turns Followers Into Fanatics, there’s much more to Lady Gaga than meets the eye. In fact, she proves an excellent case study in authenticity, service, and powerful leadership.

Unfamiliar with the book when I picked it up, I had few expectations. I merely hoped to get a bit of insight into why Gaga does what she does, but the introduction set my aim higher: “Lady Gaga’s business sense impresses me,” writes Huba, “but her passion for changing the world for the better through any means possible is what truly inspired me to study her.” Page after page, Huba shows how Lady Gaga takes extraordinary measures to make a difference to the causes and people that matter most to her.

A few lessons in uncommon leadership from Lady Gaga:

Lady Gaga also reminds us of a key principle in leadership: it’s not about you. As it turns out, the meat dress, as well as her other attention-grabbing “stunts,” involve purposeful action: to support a cause, speak out against an injustice, or give a voice to those who might not otherwise be heard.

While you may not agree with nor want to attract the same kind of attention as Lady Gaga, her ability to connect deeply with and inspire her most engaged fans offers terrific leadership insight. “What I do [in my concerts],” she explained to MTV, “is, in essence, create an atmosphere for my fans where they don’t leave loving me, they leave loving themselves.”

Consider how you can more powerfully focus on those who matter most, start with why, and go big – all in service of a brighter, stronger world. Because remember: regardless of your title, fame, or the number of Grammys on your shelf, your leadership is not about you.

COACH’S CHALLENGE:

How can you step outside the norm in your leadership? Where could you make an inspiring splash or bring an unexpected delight to those who matter most? This month, step outside your comfort zone and take an uncommon action in service of those you lead. 

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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Monster Loyalty: How Lady Gaga Turns Followers Into Fanatics by Jackie Huba (Penguin, 2013)

 

 

Are You Enough?

Christi Hegstad April 6th, 2015


Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone else. It’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone else at all.
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Coaching Tip for the Week:


Be honest: How often do you find yourself in conversation or scanning your Facebook stream thinking, “They are so much funnier, smarter, active, more entertaining, better than me!”?



Comparing ourselves to others rarely leads to flourishing work and lives. Usually it provokes feelings of guilt, inadequacy, and envy – none of which brings us meaning and purpose. 



The answer, while not necessarily easy, is quite simple: Don’t compare yourself to others. 



Don’t even compare yourself to your previous self.



Instead, create your vision for your future, and live and work with that as your guide. Strive to be your best in – and enjoy – the present moment, knowing that you are laying the foundation for a bright and purposeful future.
This week, quit comparing. Any time you catch yourself thinking you’re not _____ enough (smart, active, creative – you fill in the blank), stop yourself. Repeat this 3-word sentence to yourself: “I am enough.” Do your best, honor your values, and know with complete certainty: you are enough.

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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Personal And Professional: Two Separate Areas For Growth?

Christi Hegstad March 30th, 2015


“After reading the sixteenth parenting book that contradicted the first fifteen, I quit trying to become a better parent and decided to try becoming a better person.”
Glennon Doyle Melton

Coaching Tip for the Week:


If you’ve known me for more than 5 minutes, you probably know books are a huge part of my life. I love to read them, write them, talk about them, give them away. Seeing one of my kids engaged in a book warms my heart!

Scan the shelves, and you’ll find books to help you become a better manager, CEO, parent, director, and the myriad roles we play in life. Yes, certain roles carry tasks upon which you can improve.

But the fact of the matter is, you are one person – a whole and amazing person – and you bring that whole person into every role and experience. Trying to compartmentalize your growth is like trying to gain body strength by only lifting weights with your right arm. 

This week, take on an activity to ramp up your whole self – not just one aspect. One of my favorites that I have my coaching clients do is a values clarification. When you know your 3 core values – those non-negotiables that are as much a part of you as the air you breathe – you will find more alignment in your life, easier decision-making, and stronger self-confidence, regardless of the role or situation.

Let your values be your guide!

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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Re-Fueling Your Watered-Down Life

Christi Hegstad March 27th, 2015

“I spent the afternoon with my young daughter,” a new client recently shared. “I was so looking forward to that time together, but you know what happened? I spent the whole time worried about an upcoming deadline at work, checking my emails for a school update I was expecting, wondering what I’d make for dinner, and a bunch of other stuff.   

“I was with my daughter, but I wasn’t really with her – and I was so sad about that at the end of the day.”  

Can you relate? 


This quarter, the ASPIRE Success Club has delved deep into topics of purpose, priorities, and how we spend our time. For many, focus often seems a luxury we simply cannot attain due to distractions, multitasking, competing expectations, and never-ending, multi-page to-do list.


The result? Your body is here, your mind is there, and – as Kipling might say – never the twain shall meet.


A few years ago, I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Stephan Rechtschaffen, physician and co-founder of the Omega Institute in New York. He described this experience of being in one role (i.e., work) and thinking about another (i.e., the kids) as a leading cause of ‘time poverty’ – the feeling that we never have enough time, and we’re rarely fully present in any activity. Aside from feelings of frustration and overwhelm, time poverty can lead to health issues, relationship struggles, and more. 

 

One of our ASPIRE members phrased it this way: “I don’t want to be multitasking and spreading myself so thin. I want to live at full-strength rather than being a watered-down version of myself!

 

Brilliant!

 

Do you feel like you’re treading in a watered-down life? Here are a few questions to ask yourself in service of a full-strength version of you:

  • What could I do first thing in the morning to start my day off positively?
  • When do I feel “in the zone” and how could I feel that way more often?
  • How could I bring a stronger sense of purpose to my work each day?
  • Whom do I admire for her/his focus, strength, or priorities? (Hint: Invite that person out for coffee!)
  • How might I help someone else experience more focus or intention?
  • What matters most to me? How can I honor that this week?

COACH CHRISTI’S CHALLENGE: In the next few days, commit to 3 intentional moments of fully-engaged presence. Set up a meeting with your overwhelmed team member and focus 100% on the conversation. Take your child to the park, power down your phone, and hop on the swings with him. Wake up 10 minutes early and fully savor a quiet cup of coffee or tea before the bustle of the day begins. 

After each intentional, mindful moment, make note of the experience. The more you can bring these moments into your workday and life, the more “filled up” you will feel.  

And you might just find that your full-strength life isn’t just a dream, but a reality that you create – by design, with intention – moment by moment by meaningful moment.    


How will you ensure you’re living a full-strength life and not some watered-down version? Share your thoughts on Facebook and Twitter!

 

What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Subtract Your Way To Success

Christi Hegstad March 23rd, 2015



“When you clear the path to success – that’s when you consistently get there.”
Gary Keller

Coaching Tip for the Week:


When you set a new goal or decide to improve an area of your work or life, what’s the first thing you do? 



For many, we jump right into “do” mode: adding tasks to our to-do lists and putting more into our already-busy schedules.



While that may prove an important part of your strategy, you can’t continually add-add-add without feeling the weight of overwhelm. Sometimes, our best first step isn’t adding – but subtracting.

This week, remove some barriers. Look at your most important goals and ask, “What’s standing in my way?” Then begin clearing the path to your success: let go of a non-essential calendar commitment, declutter your desk or email in-box, say “no” to a request on your time in order to say “yes” to what matters most.

Not only will you free up time and space, you’ll increase mental energy in the process!

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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Spring Clean Your Calendar

Christi Hegstad March 16th, 2015

“As a miminalist, every possession serves a purpose or brings me joy.”
Millburn & Nicodemus

Coaching Tip for the Week:


Have you ever boxed up a load of clothes or household items and brought them to a local charity? How did that feel?

Have you ever done something similar with your calendar?

We’re nearing spring, the season that urges us to clean our space, clear away the excess, and open our windows to let in the fresh air.

This week, apply the spring cleaning theory to your time. Evaluate your activities through the lens of your purpose, priorities, values, and joy. Have you ‘outgrown’ some of what occupies your time? Are there meetings on your calendar solely because they’ve always been there?  

It’s been said that you can tell a person’s true priorities by looking at their checkbook and calendar. Decide what you might let go of in order to create more space, purpose, and fresh air in your work and life.

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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Focus, Purpose, Priorities: Keys To An Extraordinary Career and Life

Christi Hegstad March 13th, 2015


At age 18, after attending a seminar by personal development leader Jim Rohn, Don Hobbs felt his world open up. Transformed by this experience, Don dove into the field, absorbed every personal growth book he could find, and began working with Rohn himself – eventually becoming the President of Jim Rohn Productions. 

Now the executive vice president of Empire Builders, Don tours the country leading seminars based on the book, The One Thing. The ASPIRE Success Club recently learned from Don firsthand about focus, purpose, priorities, and other keys to success. Just a few of his many tips:

1. Dedicate time to your top priority role. 

Just like a master violinist must put in hours of practice or an elite runner sets aside time each day for exercise, so must each of us designate time to that which matters most to us. First, decide what matters most, then schedule focused time on your calendar for it. 

Whether your top role is musician, CEO, teacher, mom, or something else entirely, decide and dedicate. “Focus on what’s going to move your ball forward in whatever court it’s in,” says Don.

2. Clarify your purpose.

“Why am I here?” – a question that can sometimes keep us up at night – is an important one. If we don’t know why we’re here, Don suggests, how do we know what activities to pursue or where to invest our precious time? 

By understanding your purpose, you can use it as a guide in making decisions for your future as well as in your everyday life. To start, Don suggests searching within: What did you love to do as a child? What do you enjoy so much you’d do it for free? How can you become more childlike – curious, open, wild sense of possibility – in order to explore possibilities?

3. Create your bunker.

Reserving time for purposeful activity within your top priority role can be easy on paper, but honoring that time isn’t always as easy. Then again, it doesn’t have to be as difficult as we make it. 

A “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door, turning off email and social media notifications for a period of time, and educating others of our boundaries can help us protect our focus time. And focus is the key: “Whenever we try to do more than one thing at a time, we are less effective,” says Don.

I have pages of notes from Don, both from our interview and from his seminar I attended a few months ago with several ASPIRE members, and one line continues to stand out for me: “We are much bigger than we live.” We are designed for greatness, to make a powerful difference in the world, to speak our truth and to act boldly. As Marianne Williamson beautifully wrote, “We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” 

How can you live, work, and lead bigger this week? What action will you take to enhance your focus, honor your priorities, and work with purpose?  

Learn more about Don Hobbs here – and explore the site for more resources from The One Thing (Gary Keller with Jay Papasan, Bard Press, 2013).

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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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How Do Your Values Impact Your Leadership?

Christi Hegstad March 11th, 2015


This article was published by the Des Moines Business Record

General Norman Schwarzkopf once famously described leadership as a “potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy.”

Strategy is often clear-cut: you inspire a vision, create goals, and execute the necessary tasks. You have a clear measuring stick and, while life and leadership are rarely black-and-white, you have a map with guideposts along the way.

Character, however, isn’t always so well-defined. Our values play a huge role and, if unidentified, you may often find yourself waffling, spinning your wheels, and making inconsistent decisions. On the flip side, clear values lead to clear actions – and powerful leadership.

Zhena Muzyka, founder of Zhena’s Gypsy Tea, seemed to know this early. As she vividly shares in her 2014 book Life By The Cup, she began her business out of necessity: a single mother to an infant son with medical issues, she needed a way to pay for his healthcare. She blended her passion for tea, her desire to care for her family, and her core values to form an enterprise.

Zhena experienced lean days familiar to many entrepreneurs. During those times, opportunities arose that perhaps would have significantly increased her revenue and business stature, but would also prove a slippery slope with regard to her values. Time and time again Zhena chose in favor of her values, and now her business – as well as her integrity – thrive.

This book holds many insightful tips for the purposeful professional, including:

Reach out. So many of us “go it alone” or feel that as smart, capable people we should be able to figure everything out. I love that Zhena never pretended to have all the answers, or even most of the answers, but she held her vision high and reached out to others who did. “When we learn to ask for help,” she reminds us, “we allow others to participate in our life and invest in the relationship.” Rather than thinking of asking for help as a burden, we can actually view it as a gift.

Work with purpose. Zhena’s work is an obvious extension of her values and an expression of her purpose. She never waffled on those values, even when it would have been lucrative to do so. She also didn’t get “lost in the weeds” of the day-to-day tasks: “There is no higher purpose or honor in anyone’s life,” Muzyka writes, “than to serve and nourish others. May your days be filled with this knowing.”

Show up. As somewhat of an accidental entrepreneur myself, I can second Zhena’s suggestion that a big percentage of success is just showing up. Planning plays an important role, but at some point we need to dive in. Attend the meeting. Write the draft. Do the work rather than ruminate and overthink. One of my favorite lines in the entire book: “I was moving so fast that fear couldn’t catch me.”

This book unexpectedly snuck into my pile late last year and turned out to be one of my favorites of 2014. I am a full-fledged coffee lover but was even inspired in the beverage arena: I consumed more tea while reading Life By The Cup than the entire year prior! For a heartfelt glimpse into purposeful entrepreneurship, values-based leadership, and succeeding in meaningful work, grab a cup of tea and this book. You won’t be disappointed.

 

COACH’S CHALLENGE:

What are your 3 core values? If you cannot easily answer this question, conduct a values clarification. One route: Review a large list of values, highlighting those that matter most to you. Continue paring down until you’ve identified the three that resonate deeply with your core and that imbue your decisions, actions, and choices. Values clarification isn’t necessarily easy, but knowing those values makes decision-making (and nearly everything else) much easier.

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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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Life By The Cup: Ingredients for a Purpose-Filled Life of Bottomless Happiness and Limitless Success by Zhena Muzyka (Atria Books, 2014)

 

 

Thank You For Changing The World

Christi Hegstad March 9th, 2015

“There’s only one thing that unlocks the door to true peace of mind: Serving a purpose bigger than that face you see in the mirror every morning. Giving everything you’ve got to making your world a better, brighter, more beautiful place.”
Pam Grout

Coaching Tip for the Week:


If you’ve been with me for a while, it won’t come to any surprise to you that I am here to change the world. 

In fact, I am changing the world.

And so are you.

With every conversation, every email, every interaction, every single thing you do, you make an impact. When you consider the ripple effect – how your action influences others in ways you will never know – you affect more than just the person in front of you. You contribute to kindness, peace, and humanity.

This week, change the world in simple, profound ways. Smile at the person you walk by. Engage in conversation with the cashier rather than checking your phone. Conduct an anonymous kindness that no one will ever know you did. Look the person speaking to you in the eye. Send an encouraging email.   


Now you know the true purpose behind my blogs, e-letters, and Clarity Kickstarts. Here’s to changing the world! 🙂 


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What if your boldest dream is actually within reach…and you don’t even realize it? 

Dr. Christi Hegstad, Dream Igniter & Growth Accelerator. Christi is a Certified Coach who has helped thousands clarify and reach Big Dreams and Bold Goals with meaning and purpose. She is president of MAP Professional Development Inc., NAWBO Iowa’s Woman Business Owner of the Year, and mom to three amazing kids. 

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